IT'S TIME WE TALK ABOUT IT!!!

MUST SEE LESBIAN MOVIES

2010-04-15T00:28:00.000-07:00

Then Came Lola (2009) >>A talented, but distracted photographer, Lola, on the verge of success in both love and work, could lose it all if she doesn't make it to a crucial meeting on time. But, as usual, Lola is late. With her job and girlfriend on the line, she has three chances to make it right. In a desperate race through the streets and back rooms of San Francisco, time grows short-will Lola make it? Will she come at all? With a pop sensibility that mixes live action, animation and still photography, And Then Came Lola explores love's age old question in a fresh new way, "If you try, try again, will you finally get it right?"

Go Fish (1994) >> Max is a trendy, pretty, young lesbian, who is having trouble finding love. A friend sets her up with Ely...

I really like both movies. Then came lola is a drama-comedy-romance. Pretty showed a lot of characters and facts of whats going on with lesbian life.
While Go Fish is a drama-romance... it's pretty old movie but, the catch is that it showed a lot of ideas between the "wannabe lesbians and the real ones". Am not really sure if they released this movie here in the Phil. But you may watch it in Megavid or Videoweed on PC.

Are you a Pansexual OR a Polysexual?

2010-03-29T23:17:00.000-07:00

When we say that we are LESBIANS... we have to know all the right terms, styles, the way it's said and so on and so forth. So many of people say that they are Les as simple as it can be, but they really don't have any idea how broad this spectrum is.

As I had mentioned before, there are different types of Lesbians, now just for some information, there are two different MAIN SEXUALITY. Making you confused? I believe so. Anyway here is the simplest explanation to it. And hope you can judge yourself after.

1. A pansexual (pan meaning "all"), in terms of sexual orientation, is someone with the capacity to be attracted to someone regardless of their sex, including those who may be transgendered/transsexual/butch/dykes/gays/femmes/soft-butch.

2. A polysexual (poly meaning "many"), in terms of sexual orientation, is someone with the capacity to be attracted to many genders, but not necessarily all of them, dykes/butch/gays/femmes/soft-butch but never on transgender and transsexual.

There you have it... now we can say that it ain't easy to be a real Lesbian. It ain't just for fun to be one and definitely it ain't because it's a hip to be one. If ever you're attracted to men in any ways, then you're BIsexual... you can never say you're a LESbian. NEVER.

How do lesbian have sex? Straight people ask...

2010-03-29T22:59:00.000-07:00

PLEASE NOTE THAT:

Your tongue and fingers can do everything. Toys can add to the fun, but are not necessary.

Oral sex to one another

Preform oral sex at the same time with each other in the '69' position.

Scissoring, where they touch their genitals together and or rub them.

Strap-on sex, where a harness equipped with a dilldo is worn by one woman and she penetrates the vagina, anus, or both.

There are however several other methods which facilitate non-sex aid love making such as scissoring/tribadism, mutual masturbation and oral sex.

You don't need to strap on a penis. If you're really good all you need is your tongue and fingers. At least most lesbians think it's better.

Speaking from personal experience and as a lesbian, most lesbian couples enjoy a far more enriched sex life than most hetero couples due to the levels of intimacy attainable by women and a greater knowledge of how to satisfy someone of the same gender.

There are however several other methods which facilitate non-sex aid love making such as scissoring/tribadism, mutual masturbation and oral sex.

It's now up to you how you can imagine it... what straight couples do, lesbians can also do...

Is it fun being a lesbian?

2010-03-28T19:56:00.000-07:00

>>>Lesbians don't do so just for the sake of fun! They are like the rest of us needing someone in their lives only their sexual orientation is different than heterosexuals.If you are a straight person then don't be pressured to try bisexuality or becoming a lesbian. Being gay is still a very controversial debate in society and it's not an easy road to take if you are a true lesbian.

Being a lesbian is very wonderful and fulfilling and beautiful and comforting and sensual and emotional. Between lesbians there can be radical equality, mystical unions, love, cuddling, sexuality, warmth, nurturing, support, humor, understanding, patience, healing, safety, community, female energy, and total intimacy.

Fulfilling and on more of an emotional level than being with a man if you are a true lesbian. I feel more connected and understood than I even did with a man. We also understand our little tiffs and attitudes and what it means more than the man. Plus the sex is great considering we have the same parts ;-). But I do have to say the public eye can be quite harsh. Public affection can't/won't happen in most places unless you want some horrid looks and comments. It can also be hard to come out to family, most likely not friends, and if your friends dismiss you, you don't need them. Being a lesbian is wonderful, if it the right way for you.

If you are a true lesbian and not a want to be it's better that with guys because a girl knows what a girl wants. It's nice to treat her the way you want to be treated, and sex can be more gratifying if the two are lesbians. She knows where all your sensitive spots are; she knows when you're in the mood, and women's ejaculation is so good.

You don't have the social rules like if you want sex you don't need to pretend that you'd love to invite someone to dinner...or you don't have to pretend with your other friends that you love the other person enough to make out and you can be you (if you are a lesbian! You experiment equality! It's awesome when you totally come out.

If two people are lesbians then their experiences can certainly be gratifying, but don't buy into the fact if you are straight and feel becoming a lesbian you will have a faultless relationship. Having lesbian friends they have been honest with me in saying that when two women are having their menses cycle it's like putting two Pitt Bulls into a sack! Lesbians are not much different than straight couples and have their problems and their arguments and some cheat on each other. Others fall out of love and move on. If you're straight remain straight and for those who are lesbians then try to find the right woman for a good relationship because sex isn't the number one factor in a good relationship and it's loyalty, honesty, staying power, and good communication skills just like straight people have to learn.

How do you know if you are a lesbian?

2010-03-28T19:39:00.000-07:00

ANSWER:
If you find that you are only attracted to females in a sexual/romantic way, then you are most likely a lesbian. If being in a relationship with a female is something that feels right to you and being in a relationship with a male just is not right for you, then you are most likely a lesbian.

ANSWER:
Have you ever experimented with another girl before or is it just a physical attraction and not a sexual one? If it's only physical then you probably aren't I mean i find it to be perfectly natural to find someone of the same of the same sex attractive as long as you don't think of that person in a sexual manner. But if it's both sexual and physical then you might just be open-minded as long as you still are attracted to men. I hope i helped answer your question.

ANSWER:
If you enjoyed the lesbian experience you are attracted to women, but you might not be a lesbian. If you're still attracted to men you're bi.

ANSWER:
Well if you like a girl or a boy more than you r friends than you are very likely to be gay or lesbian. if you like a boy and a girl than you are probably bi. but don't worry cause everybody are what they are.

ANSWER:
If you find that you are attracted to both males and females in a sexual/romantic way, you are probably bisexual. If you are just as comfortable being in a relationship (or imagining being in a relationship) with a female as you are when in a relationship (or imagining...) with a male, you are probably bisexual.
Your sexuality is something that can only be determined by you, yourself. However, some people never find a label that truly fits them. You may find that neither of the terms "bisexual," or "lesbian" really fits you, & it's okay if it they do not. Not everyone can be categorized so easily.

ANSWER:
There is no real answer to that! I'm sorry to say. I will tell you a bit about how I found out, maybe that will help.
I'm a girl of course. Around my 4th grade year, I was noticing that I had a tendency to dress in male clothing. And I had a lot of thoughts about kissing some of my friends that were female. I didn't understand at that point.
Before 8th grade a girl asked me out, at first we were just joking, before I knew it we both took it seriously. I thought liking girls was just a phase that I would pass out of. But, I notice that seeing a female not in clothing drove me wild.
And kissing them was so pleasing, that I came to terms that I was bisexual. I still like guys, but I've liked girls for about more than 8 years now. I couldn't be any happier.
Hope this helps. If you don't know what your feeling, try something with a girl, if you enjoy it and continue to enjoy it... then most likely you are bisexual or lesbian. but if you find that you don't like guys anymore, or you find that you still like guys, that is just how it goes. Be strong, for if you are bisexual or lesbian, you might be in for a rough life.
Bi is when you are interested and act with both sexes. Lesbian is when your interest and actions are only is women.

ANSWER:
When you are in love with another woman.

ANSWER:
If you can get similarly exited by both males and females you are Bi if you are not turned on or sexually attracted by women then you are lesbian. However it is all a matter of degrees, the sexual act in itself is enjoyable and to enjoy it with some one else of either sex need have nothing to do with your sexual orientation.
If you are attracted to other women and have strong 'love' bonds and feelings towards them, you might be a lesbian. To find out for sure, have a relationship with another woman and then you'll know.

ANSWER:
Most women who are lesbians (and most gay men) say they know something is "up" between the ages of 7-10.
While most straight teens go through normal "crushes" on the same sex, these feelings usually fade, if they occur at all. However, for a gay person, these feelings usually grow stronger and any initial feelings of attraction to the opposite sex fade, unless this person is bisexual.
Most importantly, being gay or lesbian is not merely about wanting to have sex with the same sex--straight women sometimes have flings with other women, and gay people often have sex with the opposite sex. While physical attraction is a strong component, most gays, and especially lesbians, find an emotional attraction that is equally strong, if not stronger.
If you're over 21, the test would be this: If you are a woman who fantasizes about being with another woman--do you also want to wake up with her in the morning, have coffee and go on a long walk through the park holding hands? If not, you're probably not a lesbian.
Only you know if you are gay or not. No one else can answer that.

Look into your heart. Is this how you feel ? Do you feel like you are gay? Have you ever experimented? Time will tell.

Lesbian? What kind of a Lesbian?

2010-03-28T19:09:00.000-07:00

Now in real life, when you say you're a lesbian it doesn't mean that you have to wear like what men wears... a woman in high heels, lipsitck and skirts can be a lesbian. When we say Lesbians that mean you are attracted to women, no matter how they dress up as long they are women. As I've noticed here in the Philippines, if you're a lesbian you have to wear baggy jeans, big shirt or men's clothing... nope. It's not necessary like that. Those women who wear those are called Butch or Dykes... still in the group of being lesbians. Women who wears just jeans, fit shirts, sneakers, black nail polishes are called Soft-Butch. Women who wears skirts, heels, make ups are called femmes, and all of these categories are Lesbians....

1. Butch / Dykes : These are lesbians that wears jeans, shirts, caps and pop-ups. They naturally act like men, talk like men and never have a touch of their feminine side. These kind of lesbians are always attracted to femmes.

2. Soft butch : These are lesbians who wear skinny jeans or jeans, fit shirt, sneakers, slippers, sling bags, eyeliner, lip gloss and sometimes nail polish in short nails. They can be attracted to Butch / Dykes, femmes and even soft butch like them.

3. Femmes : These are lesbians who wear heels, skirts, make ups, nail polish in long nails, acts very poised and never will can you figure out if they are lesbian. These are women who normally gets attracted to butch / dykes and even sometimes femmes like them.

4. Gay : A lesbian who can be both ways at times. A soft butch or Femme. Normally is attracted to Butch / dyke and Soft Butch. They can wear either the soft butch style or the femme style.

When we say Lesbian.... there is a lot to it. So, which one are you? I am gay... so gay and I'm proud of it.

My kind of WOMEN.....

2010-03-23T03:27:00.000-07:00

As requested by a "frequent - friend" reader... (lol) this are the answers to your questions... hope it will answer your questionsssssss =)

I like it both ways. Meaning I am attracted to soft butch and butch... I have nothing against dykes and femmes... But I really don't know why I always get so attracted to these kind of women.... I believe because I kind of see myself through them and it makes me comfortable with people like them...

Here are some photos that will give you a sort of an idea of the women i normally date and get so attracted to...

So there you have it.... yup these are my types.
A lot of people are kind of confused when it comes to being a Lesbian. They make it so complicated, don't really know why. I mean for a fact when you say your a tomboy, that does not mean that you have to wear like men do or act like men do.... it's being expressive of the real you.

AND THIS IS SO ME =) don't get me wrong... I also wear sunday dresses, short skirts and all.... but you will see me normally on clothes such as this.....=)

Thanks for reading... and keep on reading!!! PEACE!

The Rainbow (LGBT's pride) Flag... it's meaning

2010-03-22T03:14:00.000-07:00

Now, if you're really a Lesbian, well you must know the meanings of each color of our symbol flag... the rainbow flag we call it... and the LGBT? Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transgender..... A head start for newbies...

Growing up in Canada gave me all the insight of the 3rd community. And am glad to be able to share it down south in the Philippines... for some, it is easier for them to say I am Lesbian, but before you say it you must know the truth about being a Lesbian.... not because u like a girl that doesn't mean you are a Les already... ooohh there is so much to experience before you can finally say you are a Les...

Well here are the meanings of our PRIDE.

Colors of the Rainbow Flag:
The original flag had eight stripes from top to bottom: pink (sexuality), red (life), orange (healing), yellow (sunlight), green (nature), turquoise (magic), indigo/blue (serenity), and violet (spirit). Within a year, the flag had shed two of its stripes—pink and violet. According to Gilbert, they "ran out of pink dye." The violet stripe was later taken out to create an even number of stripes on the flag.Since, many variations of the flag have been created. For instance, a black stripe is added to some symbolizing those lost to AIDS. There are also variations to represent bisexual people, bears and others.

I WAS DAMNED & KARMAD

2010-02-22T21:48:00.000-08:00

I'm a murderer, of feelings that is. I don't know if I was born to do that or is it my choice... maybe lots of you would say it's a matter of choice... I did choose... but still ending up unfaithful!!!

I believe that it's hard for others to please me, and so to please myself... in a minute I like this and in a while I don't coz I found better and ending up messing things so bad. I can be in a relationship for like years and years, but please do not expect me to be faithful... mmm in the first 3 months yes will, but I really couldn't help myself pleasing others too.... it suck to be me, believe me. But, but... if I really like the person that I'm with, it's like all or nothing. I give my best and make sure that she's one hell happy person in bed and in relationship...

People might think I'm a bad and a foolish person that doesn't need to be given much attention... but, I'm nice - that's what they say, and I believe them, my friends calls me "under the table job"... you know what I mean. It's just that I can't be faithful all the time. BUT I always remember, acknowledge and appreciate things that were given and done to me... at all times. I'm not just faithful.

I was or still am in my now 4 year relationship... living in - for that matter and she caught me being unfaithful several times... the reason I feels like can't really leave her is that she does millions of things for me on my favor. And I feel that I can't live without her, but somehow feels like I have to let go of her coz it ain't fair for her... I know. Every time I think about it, it melts my heart... but there's a feeling that damns me... like a whisper saying "go have fun, don't worry to much". I can't really assume to myself that I'm a player... coz I'm not.

There was a story I actually posted here weeks ago about this girl I really like... we were both taken... had years relationship, but we were doing great. Until the day came she chose to be with her 5 yr GF... It was like she was forced to chose her coz her GF was like paying for everything.... Told her that doesn't matter - - money doesn't matter shit to me. Now I'm paying for all the damn things I've done... I can't stop thinking about her, somehow I'm still hoping for her to get back, but no assurance that.... I'll be faithful to her too. Selfish right, I don't know, that's the way I am....

And then came another girl that was introduced to me by an office staff... she's cool.... kinda young, but..... but.... awesomely sexy... I believe she is a soft-butch, which is alright. And believe me, I kind of give up on her.... she is really hard, moody and irate... but I find her funny at times. I am really attracted to her and I'm trying to myself not to treat her like the others, good luck to me..... unfortunately after the days of trying, I found out we were cool as friends and I was happy to find it out. Why? because actually we have the same attitude and positive + positive will never attract right, it mus be negative + positive...

Alls well that ends well I may say... as for myself, I am enjoying life, NOT to the extent of using people... I just enjoy their company. Nothing more nothing less.

Top 10 First Lesbian Date Mistakes to Avoid

2010-01-27T18:22:00.000-08:00

We'll all been there. The girl looks so promising on her online profile, or when you meet her at the bar. You've taken that brave first step and asked her on a date, so now don't screw it up. Here are the top first date mistakes lesbians need to avoid.

2. Don't Answer Your Cell Phone

You might think she'll be impressed with the number of times your phone goes off in one night. Boy, aren't you popular! Really, she'll be more impressed if you focus your attention on her. Turn the cell phone off and put it in your pocket.

3. Don't Talk Too Much About Your Ex

It's okay to mention that you've had exes and even how long you were together. But don't go on and on about what a mean and evil bitch she was, how she threw a rock through your window and kidnapped your cat. Likewise, don't tell her how much you were in love with her and how you thought you were going to spend the rest of your lives together. Put your past behind you and focus on the future.

4. Don't Get Drunk

One or two drinks is fine, but know your limit. No one wants to worry about how a date they just met is going to drive herself home, or worse, watch her throw-up in the bathroom.

5. Don't Take her to a Place Where All Your Friends Are

You asked her on a date because you want to get to know her. You don't need your friend making a face at you from across the room or interrupting your conversation. Go someplace you feel comfortable, but where you can talk in private.

6. Don't Get Too Maudlin

Keep it light. Sure you can talk about serious issues if they're meaningful to you, but don't drone on and on about depressing topics. Take your cue from her body language. Is she tuning out? Change the topic.

7. Don't Plan too Long of a Date

Keep the first date short and simple. Don't invite her up for a day of apple picking, bike riding, dinner and hot tubbing. Go for coffee, ice cream or a simple dinner. You don't want to be stuck all day with someone if things don't go well. Or if things do go well, you want to save some activities for the second and third dates.

8. Don't Get Too High Expectations

It's a first date. Nothing more. Don't start making plans to move in together or start believing you're now "girlfriends."

9. Don't Play Games

If the date's not going well and you want a way out, simply say it was nice meeting her and excuse yourself. Don't have your friends call you and pretend there's been an accident and you need to come quickly. Be honest. Don't say you want a second date if you don't intend to follow through.

10. Don't Be Rude

Show up on time. Be nice to her and to any wait staff or people you encounter. Let her see your best side, even if you never intend to see her again. Remember, she may have a friend you're interested in.

TORN BETWEEN TWO.........

2010-01-25T19:06:00.001-08:00

Yes,... never expected this things to happen to me... as everyone knows...and has been following by blogs, we all know I am in a relationship for 3 yrs now...but things had changed...
It all began when I met one of my trainees... followed by simple txt messages, followed by short visitations at my office then followed by longer meetings followed by.... I guess you know what I mean.... It was going on for a month and thought that I won't fall for her, but I did eventually... unfortunately my girlfriend never had the idea of my feeling for this other girl....This other girl knew about my girlfriend too and I also know about hers... they've been together for 5 years, and never had she cheated on her...
I fell for her and she did too, unfortunately we were both not ready to begin a new relationship. My relationship with my girlfriend is in a boat floating on big waves..... so as we speak. That reasoned out for me to venture to another that ended up in heart ache...
It ended with the other girl.... although she broke up with her girlfriend, but she came back running for her... reason? a lot though... and I'm left in a tragedy of reasoning out what is there for me...
Yes, I have to put a closure with my girlfriend... its hard but I need to do it slowly... it wont be fair for her if I go on without the same feelings anymore. 3 years might be too long, but its the quality of the relationship that counts.
The hardest part is that the entire family knows her already, accepted her too... the fact that she lives with me..... wow!!!
Now I am just hoping not to be in a rebound relationship. As of the other girl, she told me to back off.......HURTS!!!!!

Almost Tempted

2009-10-16T19:15:00.000-07:00

It was a time of my life that I was confronted by choices.... choices that needs a lot of thinking and consideration.

It was a tough time for me... never thought that I can manage somehow to give myself a favor, a favor of being mature. A favor of dealing things that doesn't need me to be selfish.... and I made my choice.

It was hard, but I sure did the right thing. Although I've hurt the person who showed me love, even for a quick tick of the time... but I have to consider; what about the person who loved me for 3 years? And then It kept me thinking... I thought of my happiness... satisfaction and the practical side of everything.

What I am talking about is about a girl that I just met a few times, never thought that it would create something that I must think about later one. As we all know I am with someone for the last 3 years - I love her dearly. But I never expected that at some point, I would even question myself about me and her. the new girl was okay, she comes around more often that I thought, spoke to her a lot of times... Never planned for her to fall in love with me... but as she said she did. Unfair!!! She knew I was with someone.... and I knew too she was with someone - whom I know too.

Well, it all end up to nothing.... I can't... I just can't. I love my Girl so much. Braking up would be the last thing I would do if the reason would be because of a 3rd party.

How To Keep Love Alive

2009-09-03T01:50:00.001-07:00

Whether you're in a long-term relationship, or are just looking for new ways to woo the lady in your life, these tips will help you keep love and passion alive with your partner.

Difficulty: Average

Time Required: As much as you have to give

Here's How:

Tell her you love her. Do you do it enough? Be specific. Say, "Honey, you make me laugh," or "You're the sexiest person I've ever met." Only say it if you mean it. She'll know the difference.
Buy her flowers. Do it today! Don't just wait for a special occasion. Surprise her!
Take her out on a date. So many long-term couples don't go out on dates, especially if they live together or have kids. A date doesn't have to cost a lot of money. Go see an art opening or a free concert in the park.
Make a date for romance. Is your love life in a rut? Plan an evening of intimacy. Turn off the TV, light candles, put on some romantic music, send the kids to a baby sitter or get a hotel room.
Tell her she's beautiful.
Meet her at the door after a long day of work with a glass of wine and a hot drawn bath.
Sit behind her when you're watching TV and rub her shoulders and back. Have her put her feet in your lap and massage them too.
Cook her a romantic dinner, complete with candles, flowers and a nice bottle of wine.
Have interests of your own, but make time for her. She fell for you because you intrigued her. Keep doing what you love. If you're a well-rounded person, you'll always have things to talk about.
Encourage her to follow her heart's desire. Does she have a hidden dream? Does she fantasize of being a famous painter? Buy her an easel. Has she always wanted to climb Mt. Everest? Buy her books on Nepal or a new pair of hiking boots. Does she want to return to school? Help her apply for financial aid. The happier she is with herself, the happier she'll be with you.
Find a common hobby or interest. Whether it's attending a church together or watching horror movies. Find something you BOTH like and make time to do it as often as you can.
Listen with your ears and your heart. Let her know you're paying attention. Ask her what she would like to make your relationship better. Be open to what she has to say.
Follow up your words with actions. Did you promise to go with her to visit her mother? Say you were going to take her out on Saturday night? Return the videos? Do it!
Give her space when she needs it. If she needs some time alone, don't take it personally. Everyone's need for personal space is different. Respect hers.
Communicate. Listen with respect. Repeat what you heard her say. Validate her points. Validate her.

What You Need:

A sense of humor
Patience
Compassion
A shoulder for her to cry on
Lots of Love

Age Differences in Lesbian Relationships

2009-09-03T01:45:00.000-07:00

Sometimes you just happen to fall in love with someone older or younger than you. Other times you're naturally attracted to women older or younger than yourself. Some people claim that age differences do not matter in relationships. But the truth is, it often does. When does age difference matter in lesbian relationships and what can you do to ensure your relationship will survive?

How to make age differences work:
First you need to be open to the fact that even though you love each other and have so much in common, one thing that is different about you is the amount of time you have lived. It’s not a deal breaker, but it can cause conflict. Everyone is different, but people tend to go through different stages at certain ages of their lives.

For example, many women attend college in their early 20s to early 30s. You might spend your twenties hanging out a lot with your friends, partying and jumping from job to job. In your forties, you might be more settled in your job, have some money saved for retirement, own a house and have children who are adults themselves.

A woman in her twenties, even if she is mature for her age, is not going to have had all the same life experiences as someone in her forties. Does this mean the relationship cannot work? Of course not! But it does present some challenges that a couple that is the same age may not experience.

Ten, Twenty, Thirty Years Different

How many years separate you and the age each of you are can be a factor. A fifteen year age difference might not seem like a big deal to a 30-year-old and 45-year-old. But if one is 18 and the other is 33, there might be challenges. One can't go to over 21 clubs, may be just starting out on her own or in school.

Like any kind of difference in relationship, whether it be economic, race, class or culture, it is important to look at where these differences enhance the relationship and where they may lead to potential conflict. Good communication and trust will improve your chances of relationship success.

Outside Forces

Regardless of how well suited you are for each other, your friends and family may disapprove of a relationship with a large age difference, especially if both of you mainly have friends within your own age group. Be sure your social circle includes people of varying ages. And make sure to socialize as a couple with each other's friends so they can get to know you as a couple.

Life Goals

More than our differences, it's our similarities that make a relationship work. Make sure you’re on the same page about life goals. Do you both want children? Where do you each see yourselves in ten years? Are you compatible on a day-to-day basis? Do you share the same interests, hobbies, spiritual beliefs and values? These things may be more of an indicator of success than how old you are.

Other Differences

Money and sex are issues that couples often fight about. Age can contribute to both these factors. An older woman may make more than her younger partner, of if she is retired, she may be on a fixed income and make less. As our bodies age and we enter perimenopause and menopause, women often experience different levels of desire and arousal. If you are aware of these issues and are prepared to deal with them as they arise, your relationship should be on firm footing.

Where to Meet Lesbians Older or Younger Than Yourself

If you are someone who knows she is attracted to older or younger women, but doesn't have the opportunity to meet them in your daily life, then consider taking out or answering a personal ad. When you write a personal ad, you can be specific about the kind and age of women you want to date.

Making Age Differences Work

Sexual attraction and love are important, but it takes more than love to make a relationship work. Communication, trust and respect are essential. The keys to relationship success is not what differences are or are not present, rather how you deal with those differences.

Are you ready to be labeled?

2009-06-04T02:46:00.000-07:00

You will know you are a lesbian when you are ready to label yourself as one. It's really okay.

As you continue to figure it out, here are some things to consider:

**When you are with a girl you are attracted to, does your belly do flip-flops?
**When you hear love songs on the radio, do you think of guys or girls?
**Who do you fantasize about?
**If you have the choice of spending time with a girl you like or a boy you like, which do you choose?
**Who do you enjoy kissing more? Men or women?

Please don't think you have to sleep with someone to figure it out. While sex is a big part of sexual orientation, it is not the only part. Listen also with your heart and your head.

Be easy on yourself. In time you will figure it out. Coming out is one of the hardest things a person will ever do. I encourage you to talk with supportive friends, read books with gay and lesbian characters.

Difference between Lesbian and Gay woman

2009-06-04T02:12:00.000-07:00

As I understand it, taking on the label lesbian is more of a political statement, like an identity. Gay woman is less political, like someone who dates women, but isn't involved at all in the gay and lesbian community. What do you think? How would you define the difference between the terms "lesbian" and "gay woman?"

Some pics to share to you...

2009-05-12T02:58:00.001-07:00

The WHATS & HOWS

2009-05-12T02:15:00.000-07:00

I've been collecting these commonly asked questions... and I hope this will help. Enjoy =)

Q: What's one of the trickiest aspects of the lesbian dating scene?
A: One of the things that I hear ladies talking about the most is how both parties are afraid to be the aggressor. We were all raised with, um, let's see -- zero vocabulary for initiating sex. In fact, for the most part I'd say that those of us raised female are taught that the only way to get dates is to flirt and be coy and hope someone comes along and demands that you go out with them. It's easy with guys; you pretty much just have to stand there and someone will come along and start hustling you for a date. I'm not saying this never happens with girls, but it's rare. If you want to be successful with the ladies you gotta learn to make a move.

Q: How can a woman tell by another woman's body language if she's available and interested?
A: If she's out and by herself, she probably doesn't really want to be alone -- if she did she'd stay home. It's also promising if she's at a table of girls who all seem to be friends. Go ahead and approach her. Ask her a simple question. Check her out in a way that makes her feel hot but don't go overboard or it will seem like you just got out of jail. If she leans into you when you talk to her, it's a sign she's interested. If she likes you, she will encourage you to pay attention to her. She'll ask you to join her, she'll laugh at your jokes, and she'll listen to you.

Q: OK, so what's the next step?
A: I always recommend flattering the object of your attention. Compliment her appearance, her intelligence, her singing voice or whatever it is you notice about her. A long, slow glance and a sweet smile will always get someone's attention. Approach with confidence and ask a girl you're interested in if you can buy her a drink. Try asking her to dance with you or to join you at your table. Listen to her as she speaks, and ask her questions about herself. Whatever you choose, don't ogle her -- you'll seem like a pervert.

Q: How do you deal with your advances being rejected?
A: Being out in the dating world means occasionally facing rejection. If your self-esteem is intact, rejection won't register as much more than a tiny blip on your radar. Reminding yourself on a regular basis that you are attractive and worthwhile can help you start believing it about yourself. Remind yourself as often as you can that you are desirable, but keep in mind that doing so doesn't mean that every person will desire you.

Q: What are some of the best and worst places to meet other women?
A: You know where we meet each other? Through other dykes. For one thing, we recycle exes. Another thing is we all know each other, so we're good at fixing up friends with friends. If you are single and looking, make it known. Tell everyone you know that you want to meet someone. Go to parties or throw a party and tell all your friends that they have to bring along one person you don't know. Get out, get involved. Turn your flirt on and smile at every pretty girl you see.
Joining an activity group of some kind expands your social circle dramatically. Start dropping in on your friend's book-club meetings or get involved with a film festival. You'll meet new people to whom you may be attracted, and you'll also have access to all the people your new friends know, and you may find that you like one of them.
Check out queer film festivals, erotica readings, art openings, yoga, the gym, dance clubs, bars, the library, Pride festivals, activist groups, feminist organizations, LGBT organizations (especially good if you're just out), or any queer-sponsored event.

Q: OK, and the worst places?
A: In my opinion, the worst place to meet women are at giant drunken lesbian events. You might meet someone, sure, but she might not remember you the next day.

Research Review on Lesbian/Gay parenting FYI

2009-05-12T02:03:00.000-07:00

1)There is no evidence to suggest that lesbians and gay men are unfit to be parents.
Home environments with lesbian and gay parents are as likely to successfully support a child's development as those with heterosexual parents.

2)Good parenting is not influenced by sexual orientation. Rather, it is influenced most profoundly by a parent's ability to create a loving and nurturing home -- an ability that does not depend on whether a parent is gay or straight.

3)There is no evidence to suggest that the children of lesbian and gay parents are less intelligent, suffer from more problems, are less popular, or have lower self-esteem than children of heterosexual parents.
The children of lesbian and gay parents grow up as happy, healthy and well-adjusted as the children of heterosexual parents.

Am I a Lesbian, Bi or Gay? For the not so sure...

2009-05-12T01:08:00.000-07:00

Ok, ok.... before we start to business, we must remember to not to label ourselves... right? As long as you know that in someway you are somehow attracted to women. Might be because you just want to explore, you like the curves, you like to get down with one or simply you just dont know why.

Here's the catch... women of today think that it is hip if you were or are involved with a woman... some thinks it's a walking medal... NO! You get confused of what you really are because of 2 reasons: 1. people around you 2. what people are telling you.

Can you answer this now? Are you Lesbian? Gay or Bi? mmm for first timers, you can't just now right? I thought so too... but that's ok.... BUT the not so ok part is when you get involved with someone of the same sex and realized that it was a puking experience... then we have problems here... first, you just hurt her feelings, second, it was very rude to be experimenting. Knowing yourself doesn't really have to use someone... when I said about "u wouldnt know until u try some" meant that ''look at all the different colors, and tell me which one u like before tasting it"

Ok, for those who has this ''problem'' about themselves... try to read my older posts about coming out... exploring yourself and a lot more. then let me know. I'll keep in touch with you... though I've been out for a while......

Anyway, I will be sharing some pictures here about my latest agendas... at least some candid too to laugh about =)

Take care... love you. Keep reading.

Flirt Using Reading Body Language

2008-11-19T02:39:00.000-08:00

You see someone from across the room and think: Wow. I want to meet them. But how can you be sure that your body language conveys your true intentions - to flirt?
These body language cues are excellent ways to show the object of your interest that you'd like to get to know them better. And if someone uses these cues on you? Flirt right back -- because flirting is harmless, and practice makes perfect.
Flirt Using Your Eyes
Holding eye contact with someone you find appealing for approximately five seconds is well-used flirt tactic, mostly because it is highly effective, although its ease and simplicity of use doesn't hurt. - need to lock eyes three times before the flirt recipient catches on.

Preening To Flirt
There are many, many ways one groom themselves in public in a flattering yet flirty way, depending on your gender. Ladies can try some hair stroking, posture enhancing, neck exposing, hip tilting (if standing), clothes straightening or lip licking - all with the intention of calling attention to her attractiveness. Men can also straighten their clothing, lick their lips or fix their hair, but they should also include things like hooking their fingers into their pants (if standing), suck in their stomach, or take deep breaths to increase the size of their chest. For both men and women, try to use preening body language that shows off your best features while enhancing what makes you, you.

Flirt With a Smile
There are few things better than receiving a genuine, radiant smile from a stranger, yet many people don't respond to them as a flirt tactic. Therefore, use your smile in conjunction with the other body language ideas listed in this article to ensure whomever you've got your eye on realizes a flirt is your intention.

Flirt By Pointing
No, not by using your finger silly. Instead, try to 'point' at the person you want to flirt with by moving your body towards them. Take your feet and make sure they are facing your flirt target, and use your shoulders to lean into them - even if you aren't speaking with them. Other ideas include facing your shoulders towards them or 'closing off' a space just for the two of you (such as crossing your legs towards each other).

Using Touch To Flirt
Look for opportunities where you can touch the person you want to flirt with, either 'accidentally' or otherwise. Shaking hands is an excellent flirt tactic, because not only does it place your hands together (which conveys a "higher level of intimacy" according to Alan and Barbara Pease), but it is easy way to combine flirting with an introduction. You could also try carefully and casually placing your hands on the person's arms to very gently 'move' them so you can pass by on your way to the bathroom, or lightly tap their arm while sharing a laugh. And if you aren't quite comfortable touching the person you want to flirt with quite yet, you can try mimicking their movements for a short period of time (i.e. a couple of seconds), instead.

Meet My Friends

2008-11-18T23:47:00.000-08:00

Friends... they play a very important role in my life-next to my family.

I just want to share this funny thing that happened to me here in my blog, somebody actually posted in my cbox saying that: "ey ms. chona, i wanna see your friend" I really don't know who she or he was and the reason why. But of course I am person that is easy to ask favor with...

Unfortunately, I deleted that message because there was something after that favor... sorry mate, who ever you were. And to answer your 2nd question, yes I am a Lesbian and am not interested to have a relationship with men. But to have straight people as my pals... Of course, why not.

So here goes.... me and my friends who always cuddles with alcoholism....

LOVE YOU ALL...... friends and readers!!!

Etiquette for Lesbians Flirting over Text Messaging

2008-11-14T03:22:00.000-08:00

Text messaging is a great way to get in contact with someone you have just met, want to know better, are interested in dating or for flirting. So, you've met someone and you've got her cell phone number and you want to send her a text, how should you go about it? Here are some tips and Etiquette for text messaging.
Ask First.
When you get her number, ask if it's okay to text. Some people don't have plans that include lots of text messages. You don't want to run her cell phone bill up. Also, some people don't like to text message.
Keep it short.
Most cell phone plans allow for up to 160 characters. If you've got something longer to say, either call her or send an email.
Start simple.
Send a message and see how she responds. Start simple and innocent. Just sending a message will let her know you're somewhat interested. No need to get too flirty too fast. Use her response to gauge what you do next.
Use Discretion.
Don't get too sexual over text message if you know she's at work, at her parents or some other place where hearing such a comment would be inappropriate.
Don't Drink and Text.
One sure way to say something you regret later is to send an impulsive text when you're tipsy. Refrain from texting if you're drinking.
Keep an Eye on the Clock.
Just because you're a night owl, doesn't mean she is. Don't send a text message at an hour when you wouldn't call her. If her phone is on, it will probably wake her up.
Keep it fun and Flirty.
Don't say anything over text that you wouldn't tell her in person. But do have fun, be playful and try to elicit a laugh.
Don't Diss Your Friends.
You may be really into this girl, but don't have a long conversation with her while you're visiting with your friends or family. Let her know you're happy to hear from her, but that you're busy and will get back to her later.
Nothing Serious.
Don't break up with her over text message, have a fight over text or discuss any serious issue. That should be done face-to-face.
Make Dates.
Text messaging can be fun, but it can't replace real live encounters. Use texting to make a date to actually see each other in person.
Give her time to reply.
You may have the fastest fingers in the West, but some people aren't that adept at text messaging. She may be waiting to respond to you after she gets off work, when she has time to think about what she wants to say or after she checks in with her best friend to help her remember which person she gave her number to that night you are.
Don't Over Do it.
Don't send her thousands of texts if she doesn't respond. That's like leaving someone ten voice mails. It sounds stalkerish or desperate, neither of which you want to be if you're trying to impress someone.
Save the Special for Face-to-Face.
Don't tell her you love her for the first time over a text. Don't ask her to marry you or move in over a text. Anything serious should be done in person.

AND MOST OF ALL... ENJOY AYT!

COMING OUT TO PARENTS

2008-11-14T03:07:00.000-08:00

Before you come out to your parents, there are a few things you should think about. The first is, imagine the worst-case scenario. You may think your parents will be fine with this information, but what if they aren’t? The truth is, most parents do not react badly, but you might want to think about these things, just in case.
If you live with your parents and they decide to kick you out, do you have a place to go? Have a back-up plan. Line up a friend to stay with, in case you need it.
Are you financially dependent on your family? Are you relying on them to pay for your college? No one wants to believe that her parents will cut off their college funding for coming out as lesbian, but it has happened. If you think your parents might be the type, you might want to consider waiting until you are no longer financially dependent upon them.
Next ask yourself why you want to let your parents know? Is it because you want to let them know about an important part of yourself? Good. But if your answer is, “I think it’s time they deal with their homophobic feelings,” you might want to really consider what that means and what it might do to your relationship. Although it may seem tempting, do not come out during an argument or when you feel angry. Those feelings will outweigh the message you are trying to deliver and may make it harder for your parents to accept the news.
Consider telling another family member before you come out to your parents. An aunt, cousin or sibling can be an ally for you if your parents freak out.

Pick a Good Time
Try to schedule a chunk of uninterrupted time with your parent(s). It is usually better not to do this around some big family function, like Thanksgiving or the Winter Holidays. There is usually a lot of stress around these times of year already. However, if this is the only practical time, try to do it on a day that is less hectic.
I would recommend coming out in person, rather than over the phone or in a letter or email. There’s no replacing the face-to-face contact.
If you’re seeing someone, don’t bring her along. Although you may want her support, it will probably be easier for your parents if it’s just you. There’ll be plenty of time for introductions later. Or if your parents have already met your sweetheart and she’s dazzled them, you can let them know that she is your special one.

How do I know if I'm a Lesbian?

2008-11-14T03:02:00.001-08:00

How do I know if I’m a lesbian or not? Lesbians are women who are attracted to other women. This can be a physical attraction, emotional attraction or sexual attraction. If you’re a woman attracted to women, you might be a lesbian. Or you might be bisexual or you might simply be a straight women who is attracted to a friend. It may take you some time to determine which one you are.
Some women claim to have known from a very early age that they were lesbian, or at least knew that there was something “different” about themselves. Others don’t come out until their forties, fifties and even later, after having spent years in a heterosexual marriage. Whatever your situation, what is most important is that you’re taking the time now to try and figure it out and get to know yourself better.

"I think I’m a lesbian, but I’ve never had sex with a girl."
That’s okay. Most straight people know that they are attracted to the opposite sex before they ever actually have sex. There’s no need to rush to have sex to “find out” if you’re a lesbian or not. Do what feels natural to you.

RESPECT

2008-11-14T02:49:00.001-08:00

"COMING OUT" Part

2008-11-12T05:09:00.000-08:00

I grew up abroad which made me as open minded as I can be, but though, it was not really easy for me to come out from my closet and say " mom-dad... I think I am a lesbian". (my life story posted in the older post)

So I deeply feel about people who are hiding right now. I know society holds your "Being you" part of it. I know and I am aware that here in CEBU it is not that openly accepted, "the g to g" relationship. But what I say about it????? I don't give a damn!!! See, what is the worst thing a parent can do once they know their daughter is a Lesbian? - get mad, scream, cry, disappointed, unhappy...... BUT they can NEVER hate you. And those (PARENTS) are the people you should be more concern of about being a lesbian. They will still love and not hate you, eventually they will accept it - Believe me. Friends??? friends can always blah-blah in that instant, but will forget what they blah-blah about you and still be your friend - some might be in a distance for a while, but try to throw a huge party, I guarantee you they will be there!!!!

So, coming out is not as easy as we can all just say it - I know. Try to slowly act on. Try to be yourself. Don't imitate others-like Shane from LWord... by the way I love that series... But what I mean is that, Be yourself. Wear what ever that can hold your body together. Remember, you will never know how it is until you try-right? How would you know that an ice cream is sweet if you'll never taste it? So how will you know if that is really YOU that you're feeling unless if you grab some woman and taste.... "i kissed a girl and i like it" familiar? yup.

But of course, please do not do this shit if you are just fuckin' wasted or curious and start blaming yourself of what you just did that you cant even remember - for straight people who are curious, please remember... Lesbians do have feelings too. We are as human as anyone can be.

Now, I shall take a bow and exit stage right. All I can say is that: "lets throw a WOMAN'S party only" hahahaha. that sounded so good! Take care and keep reading!

As Requested...

2008-11-05T04:05:00.000-08:00

Ok, there are a few people who knows me as their cyber friend in this blog. They ask me where I am , what I am, my love life and so on... to those who wish to know my Coming Out story and how I became one, you can go to my older post (just click older post) there you will have an idea of my story and who I am. But for a bonus.... here's some quick intro :) But thank you all for those who visited my blog. Let's support 3rd community, they are as human as others.

Personal Data:

Name:Chona Lou T. Gamboa

BDay: September 25, 1980

Zodiac: Libra

Current add: 587 Gen. Luna St. Poblacion, Talisay Cebu

Grew up in: Bahrain and Canada

Languages spoken: Arabic, French, English, Tagalog and Cebuano

Present job: Communications Trainer

Work exp: ESL Manager, Logistics, Med Sec., CSR HR and FO

Course: AB Fine Art Major in Advertising

Schools: Gulf Academy, St. Christopher, Sacred Heart and CIC in Cebu

Marital status: Annulled, right after giving birth to my son as a gift for my parents

Family: Mom, Dad and brother in Canada

Relationships: 2 men. 1 was my ex husband, 1 was a fling in HS and 12 women

Love life: In a relationship. Currently for 4 years, but it's shaky (2010)

Friends: 90% from 3rd community

Music: Orchestral rock, rock, jazz and alternative

Colors: Black, violet and blue

Attracted to: Butch, soft-butch, gays and sometimes femmes.

Sports played: Tennis and billiards

Hobbies: DVD marathon, getting a tattoo and chillin with friends

Drinks: Jack Daniels, RH and Gatorade

Past time: Blogging

Proud of: 1 son, tattoos, piercing, car and friends

About me: Very friendly but very frank. Most of the time my being honest kills people offs feelings. I am a murderer of feelings. But always there to help if needed. NEVER LOOKS DOWN ON ANYBODY.

It's not only us...

2008-10-28T05:07:00.000-07:00

With so few lesbians or bisexuals out in Hollywood or in the public eye, Angelina Jolie has been embraced by the lesbian and bisexual community. She speaks openly and honestly about her feelings for women. Despite the fears that would keep some celebrities in the closet, Angelina Jolie continues to win big awards and big movie roles.
Angelina Jolie Lesbian Quotes:
Jane magazine readers voted Angelina Jolie as the female actor who makes their knees weak. To which Jolie responded, "They're right to think that about me, because I'm the person most likely to sleep with my female fans. I genuinely love other women. And I think they know that."
About Lara Croft Jolie said, "Can you imagine Lara Croft as a lesbian?...At the end of the day, I really like women. I'd love it if the girls in the cinema watching Lara Croft find me just as hot as their boyfriends do."
In an interview with Elle magazine, Angelina Jolie said, "Honestly, I like everything. Boyish girls, girlish boys, the heavy and the skinny. Which is a problem when I'm walking down the street."
"When I was 20, i fell in love with somebody who happened to be a woman."
"I was open about it (bisexuality) because I wanted people to know that I had been with a woman. i spoke about it because I'd discovered something wonderful and I thought people should know my experience was very real, very normal."
When Barbra Walters asked her if she was bisexual, Jolie responded, "Of course. If I fell in love with a woman tomorrow, would I feel that it's okay to want to kiss and touch her? If I fell in love with her? Absolutely! Yes!"
"I love women and men equally and I see people and love as love, so I think it makes sense that a woman would know I'd appreciate and love her as much as I would a man."

Drew's relationships with men have been public, but her bisexuality was kept hidden for some time. Finally in 2003 Barrymore admitted she is bisexual.

Drew Barrymore more loves the Ladies:
Drew says she's had numerous affairs with women and will continue to do so. "Do I like women sexually? Yes, I do. Totally," she admits. US magazine reported in 2007 Jane Pratt, the former editor of Jane magazine says she and Drew Barrymore had sex. Although she didn't elaborate or say when this happened, Drew Barrymore was on the cover of Jane in 1997.
Women are Beautiful:
Drew says, "I think a woman and a woman together are beautiful, just as a man and a woman together are beautiful."

FLIRTING TIPS for us LES

2008-09-22T01:25:00.000-07:00

How does a woman flirt with another woman? That can be tricky, especially if you do not know the sexual orientation of the object of your flirt.
There's nothing like having someone flirt with you to boost your self-esteem. Whether or not you return the attraction, it feels good to know that someone finds you attractive. Flirting is an art. It's a two-way game. You have to be able to read your partner's interest and comfort in the flirtation in order to know how to proceed.
But, if done properly, there is nothing better or more exciting than letting the electricity grow between you two in the beginning stages of a relationship. Flirting can be subtle or overt. I prefer the subtle kind.

Here's some tips for flirting:
1.) When you're out together, try to sit near her. Notice if she moves closer or farther away. When you're sitting on a couch and your thighs touch, what does she do? Does she let it stay or inch away?
2.)Look her in the eye when you are talking. Hold the stare for a little longer than you would a normal conversation. It may sound corny, but open a door for her to walk through.
If you're sitting across from each other, gently put your hand on hers. Don't move it away unless she does.
3.)Tell her she looks nice tonight. Compliment her hair or outfit. Find out what makes her laugh. There's nothing like humor to cut the tension and loosen you both up. Offer to get her a drink if you're at a party or bar together.
4.)Touch her hand or shoulder when you hand her a drink. Tell her you've been thinking about her.
5.)Call her just to say hi and see what's she's been doing.
6.)Send her a little note that says you enjoyed spending time together. An email is okay, hand written and dropped at her door or mailed is better.

7.)Be careful not to over do it. You don't want to seem like a stalker. Look for signs that your flirtation is unwanted. Does she get off the phone quickly when you call? Do you send her long flowery e-mails, only to get one line answers in return? If so, back off and let her come to you.
Good luck and most of all, have fun!

FIRST TIME, Lesbian Sex Tips

2008-09-22T01:16:00.000-07:00

First Time Lesbian Sex
Tips for your first lesbian sexual experience
There’s a lot wrapped up in your first time lesbian sexual experience. Whether it’s your first time having sex at all, or your first time having sex with another woman, being nervous is normal. There’s so much cultural hype about “your first time” and “losing your virginity.” One thing is true, you never do forget your first time. Here’s some tips to get you through your first time lesbian sexual experience.
1. Get to know your own body. Before you can even think about turning someone else on, it’s good to know what excites you. Yes, I’m talking about masturbation. Spend some time one-on-one with yourself. As you touch yourself and find the places that feel good, you’ll know where to touch her. And more importantly, how to tell her what turns you on.
2. Go sober. You want to remember your first lesbian sex. Sometimes alcohol or drugs can lower your inhibitions and make the first move easier, but you’re not as likely to do or say something regrettable if you’re sober.
3. Go Safe. Yes, lesbians need to worry about sexually transmitted diseases including HIV and AIDS. Read up on lesbian safer sex and be prepared to bring the topic up with your partner. Unfortunately, safe sex is still not talked about very often in the lesbian community.
4. Fantasize. It all begins with fantasy. If you’re ready to sleep with another woman, you must have thought about it. What are those thoughts? Does she throw you down on the bed and have her way with you? Or do you go skinny dipping in your backyard pool? There’s a saying, you must imagine it before you can do it.
5. Leave the toys in the drawer. There will be plenty of time to learn about and play with sex toys. Let your first time be simple flesh-on-flesh love.
6. Relax. Take your time. Touch her all over. Don’t got straight for her crotch. Undress her slowly, appreciating every newly exposed piece of flesh. Kiss her elbows. Touch her breasts. Blow softly in her ear. Kiss her neck. Caress her belly, her inner thighs. Kiss behind her knees. Smell under her arms. Massage her buttocks. Slowly suck on her fingers. Get naked and lay your body on top of hers. There’s so much erotic fun you can have before you ever even touch her pubic area. Enjoy.
7. Communicate. Ask her what she wants. Ask her if what you’re doing feels good. Tell her where you want to be touched. Communication is key to any good sexual relationship. If she’s doing something you like, moan or purr to let her know that feels good.
8. Have realistic expectations. Your first time with a lover should be about getting to know her body, getting to know how to turn her on and learning what your chemistry is. Orgasm may or may not happen the first time. That’s okay. The point is to get physical, get close, express your feelings of love or desire.

IDENTITY PROBLEM?

2008-09-17T01:02:00.000-07:00

Alright, we have to give some benefit of the doubts to those who are a bit worried about their identity... I was once too you know. ( Check my older blogs; click on old posts " im totally out of my closet")

You might say " oh no, I am straight" but some how manage to have urges with the same sex. You simply start by admiring them, then wanting to see them, then having some fantasy over that person... it's simply very Human.

Look, you have to dig deeper into yourself. The more you hide what you really feel like doing or liking - well that won't help. That is why I say " you'll never know until you try one".

Definitely nothing wrong for feeling different, hey... it's 2008 who cares what you feel. Being ashamed of your identity will pull you down, that's for sure. You'll never be happy.

I really could not give signs if you're straight or not... these depends on the individuality of a person based from their experiences and what they really feel. Admiring the same sex does not mean though that you are Les or Gay... like I said, it's all so Human.

But when you are active with your desire to be with that person, then you have to be sure of yourself. There are also times that you might be attracted because you are curious!!!! If you really want to know WHO and WHAT you are... better try. You have nothing to lose. This way you will definitely know what you really want and like. And your problem is solved.

This is really normal to have identity problem. We all do at times. It's just how you put yourself to prospectives. Believe me I know.

9 signs of depression

2008-09-17T00:53:00.000-07:00

Depression becomes an illness when common feelings related to personal failure or loss are severe and interfere with one’s work or social life. Feelings can include worthlessness and self-blame, sadness, disappointment and emptiness.
Of the 9 signs of depression (see inset), a person usually must have 4 to 5 of them, with at least one of the first 2 to be diagnosed with depression.

According to the Canadian Mental Health Association, depression is one of the most common mental health disorders . 7.9-8.6% of adults will have major depression during their lifetime in Canada (Health Canada). In 2003 alone there were over 11.6 million visits to doctors across Canada concerning depression.

IM SORRY

2008-08-26T22:09:00.000-07:00

Been troubled lately... Anger was in my heart... these are one of the reasons why I wasn't able to blog for such a long time...

But, now I'm fine with more interesting journals to share, experiences unexpected and peoples thoughts... Got new Lesbian friends too that you might be interested of.... :)

Got a job too, but now I've grown and stepped forward to my stepping stone.

New stories to tell you behind a Lesbians life...REALITY. been talking to people lately...

So please hang on for a little more.... love you all.

Was it just a FANTASY , DREAM or REALITY?

2008-04-15T20:22:00.001-07:00

First of all, I hate the color Pink, but perhaps I may say that I am in a Limbo right now... sort of... not about my sexual orientation for that matter!!! Right. So, I am out of work - Again. Yes. I really cannot make up my freaking mind. Why do I always have to look for something different? Answer? Don't know....
But, something came up during the past few weeks, I keep on meeting people. People of our kind... and it seemed to me that I had been missing a lot of something lately. Maybe coffee with mates and catching up with friends. So I did those, catched up with my Lez Atty. friend who came to visit Cebu and we had Red Horse instead of Coffee... we chatted. And yes I missed a lot of things, knew a lot of stuff while chatting with her. It amazed me how she can see things, look through things and describe things.... one of my favorite is: " Don't keep on asking if you don't want me to lie to you " <<< a big hit! and " When we're younger it is important to be happy than to be right, but as we grow older it is important to be right than to be happy " <<< golden award! I never knew there is a such word as... TRISEXUAL......hehehe.... Try everything... and that's a joke.
Eventually, after hours and hours of chatting, I felt a relief... I realized 3 things... I am truly a Lesbian - no doubt, I am penny less and I am committed with someone. So which one's are fantasy, dream and reality? Is it me a lesbian - Fantasy? No. Or I never dream of being penny less.... or me being committed with someone a reality for me? As I am sitting here in front of my PC doing this blog, I cannot imagine how things in life really works. Or, how it should be, or where it must be. But anyway, there are more important things I have to settle... BILLLLLSSSSSSSS..... Globe lines, PLDT, PO, 5'6, Credit Cards.... you name it, and now not having any job again... well, this is the time we say " A-kuna ma-tata " hehehe.
There are a lot of stuff I want to share here... but I am still focusing on them 1 by 1 because as to my brain cells are in cyber space.
If some of you may ask, how I'm doing lately.... well, not fine. My heart is messed up, life's messed up every thing seem to change.

Back on the Job!

2008-03-03T02:33:00.000-08:00

I'm back on track and in action! Got a Job!!!! after weeks of job searching, job interviews... it was all worth it....
Anyway, yes, I am back in track too.... feeling useless the previous weeks made my sex life into a swinging mood. And now I'm done with work hunts, I guess my sex life will be back to normalcy mode!!!! My girlfriend was patient enough to roll with my moods, now she will be receiving lots from me. :)
Here's a story that goes with it, I guess she was being horny that night, and me, being this dum ass person, totally ignored her gestures... de ja vous, it happened more than 4 times in a week. I feel sorry for her... I guess being into so much of feeling useless made my sex moods change. So I guess I really have to hold on to this job now.... I don't want the same thing happen again. We all know sex is good. Specially if we're lesbians? Right?

No work + No cash = Useless

2008-02-25T18:54:00.001-08:00

Jobless, no cash, credit card in max... for the first time in my life I never felt so useless. I cannot believe I resigned! Yes, yes I did. I was even astonished passing a resignation letter on the spot and which effected right away...
It was very a quick decision I made out there, no hesitations. I got irate about the company, I was tired and bored... after 7 months of banging my ass to work every day for 5 days in a week, I still cannot believe I let go of something I thought was important.
It was important before but now it wasn't. After knowing that my work was already out of place, it made me so sick. But never the less, I was happy for a while there... I met different sorts of personalities... aha, yes... Lesbians too :) It never caused such a problem though in a working environment there, actually it was even fun. Yah being a lesbian in a professional working atmosphere can be fun. I know I did.... :P
But back to the ground... I am still jobless. It is hard for me to make a career here. Building one is easy, but making one is difficult. A call center you might suggest, no not for me. I prefer mind driven jobs, more learning, not some scripted day to day work. ESL? yes that! I love to teach... I like the concept of teaching and at the same time learning the techniques of talking... - in which I am trying to force myself in mastering it for the purposes of FLIRTING... hahaha.
Alright, alright... I am a flirty old lesbian. Who prefers staying in between as a femme and a soft butch and being attracted with mostly butches than femmes. - But I love femmes too, not those hot rods though. I hate those.... too much make up, too sexy clothes which make them look like they are desperate!!!
Okay - we are talking about me being jobless, but I just can't stop sneaking thoughts about women.... it's just my nature though. I always find them a daily part of your daily life routine...
Right... while being a jobless creature at this moment, all I do all day is watch cartoons or sometimes veg out and sleep. Yes, I've been running here and there giving out my resume of course... although I am being a pig about it, but I still put efforts in doing so. Though Mama is still sending some cash, but it makes me feel more of a useless pest!
I am glad though that once in a while I check on my blogs and see that there are some people dropping in and putting in their comments... I love it! It makes me feel that I am still loved... mmm drama! So I guess I have to work and update more often now on my blogger, I actually have a lot of issues to write up, a little perverted and some a little too much of almost everything.
Which reminds me, what happened to that girl at my office.....

ChoNa1

2008-01-29T23:30:00.000-08:00

Right.... a lot of people telling me that I am such a snob. well, that is totally untrue! Infact I am so friendly and out going, i can immidiately make friends with people, men or women, gays or straight. I am not an eccentric person.
I am Lesbian, that's true, I have 9 tattoos, true too, I have tongue and brow pierce, true, I am alcoholic, mmm yah you can say that too, I smoke, yes that too - but even though with all that, that doesn't make me a bad person, that doesn't make me different from others. eventhough I grew up abroad, I still have the heart of a pinay, I even like stying here for good now,
specially that I have gathered new sets of good friends....

During boring weekends, I enjoy myslef drinking, billiards and watching good pinoy bands!!! I used to have a Music entertainment - Purple Revenge entertainment- that catered Heavy Metal music.

To some, people address me as hardcore person because of the things that I like, enjoy and do... true too.
I like to hang around with people who are trully down to earth, friendly and true to them selves.

I love Redhorse, Bacardi, Jack Daniels, Jose Cuervo, emperador and Carlo rossi. i love Marlboro red and carribean tobaccos. I like to sit in the patio drinking tea in the morning and sitting by the garage under the heat of the sun.
I don't go to mass - BUT I have faith in the Lord and visit Sto. Rosario church every morning before heading for work. I have a good job, a 5 yr old son and credit card to spend my what ever I wish for and have my mother send me money to pay for it - - - joke!!!! I am living a happy and satisfied life with respect on top of my head, with love and assurance to the people surrounding me. I am very grateful of what I become and what I have in my life. So what else could I ask for? - - - - more credit cards!!!!

The Right Way.....

2008-01-27T18:12:00.000-08:00

"Making love" that would be the first thing that pops in most straight people's mind. A lot of straight couples comes up to me asking me this question - How do you make love with her? I guarantee, it's no difference as being straight couples making love. I may say that the passion I have with women when I make love is intense.

I always make sure that I do it the right way... meaning, with love, tenderness and of course the satisfaction I give...

Making love-in so many ways, could be wild or gentle. If I truly love the person, I would rather prefer to caress her body gently than scratching her soft skin. I would rather stroke her hair softly than pulling it in different directions. I would rather kiss her passionately than just licking her anywhere.

To me, Making love is one of the greatest creation that anybody can enjoy, regardless of who they are. If you do it the right way, surely you will get the ultimate making love score ever.

There is no such thing as "how do you do it, you're both women or men?" question. making love is blind, it cannot see, but it can feel. The feeling of making love is important. We are all human beings with the rights to express our sexual desires.....

Lesbian Sacred Sexuality

2008-01-27T17:51:00.000-08:00

"With vibrant double kiss, our words of sex and spiritualityare always lip to lip : ecstasy, communion, surrender, passion,mystery, devotion. As St Theresa said, "All the way to heavenis heaven." In the poetic text of Lesbian Sacred Sexuality, fleshplumes, the interior castle glistens. Buddha women enkindlethe breath within the breath, warming spine wine, mandalaeyes penetrate. Here, Lesbian camera subjects, unlikemodels, open their soft core, teaching how the mind tellsstories, how the body forgives. One question: Just where isthis dark room? A fragrantcedar forest where lightening struck a rushing mountainstream, releasing the essence of heavenly fire? To heranointments of light, I offer salty incense as valleys overflow.

GAY MARRIAGE... IN THE PHILIPPINES

2008-01-13T18:32:00.000-08:00

Baguio City -- Who wore the bridal gown? Neither spouse. The couples were in their best barong tagalog as they march down the isle.
After six years nurturing their love, David and Alex finally exchanged wedding vows and rings as their family and friends stood witness to Baguio’s first same-sex wedding in a closed door ceremony held here last Monday.
David, a cultural arts worker, and Alex, a business consultant, formalized their relationship in a holy union officiated by Fr. Richard Mickley, founder of the Order of St. Aelred and known to have officiated same-sex marriages elsewhere in the country. The couple met in Manila six years ago and fell in love. They later moved to Baguio and became successful in their respective fields.
Two adult ring bearers and a lesbian partner carried their "wedding veil" that was actually a rainbow flag, the colorful international symbol of gay and lesbian pride.
"My partner and I don’t do role playing," said David. "We are both gay men and we’re taking pride in our decision to marry even if current laws won’t recognize this basic human right. But despite the inequality, a growing number of gay people are entering into relationships and establishing their own families without state-sponsored legislation."
He added that unlike holy matrimony, a "holy union" doesn’t require legal documents. People enter holy union as a holy sacrament that seeks divine blessings for the love they share to one another.
Proponents of same-sex marriage in the Philippines Congress have been pushing for the legislation of equal right for gays and lesbians but have always encountered violent opposition from conservatives, particularly the Catholic church, who shamelessly pervert the unconditional love of God by casting stones at those they declare more sinful than themselves.
The pre-dominantly Catholic population of the Philippines is traditionally tolerant and accepting of gays within the family structure. Many well-known gays hold visible and high positions in government and the private sector.
In 1994, the Progressive Organization of Gays in the Philippines (ProGay) led the first gay and lesbian pride march in the country. Since then, Filipino homosexuals have marched in an annual public pride parade every June and a number of grassroots GLBT groups have lobbied the government for official recognition of their basic human rights.

LESBIAN BRAIN

2008-01-09T23:34:00.000-08:00

The brains of lesbian women respond to sexual hormones differently from heterosexual women, according to a new analysis.The lesbians' brains reacted somewhat like those of straight men. It's a finding that adds weight to the idea that homosexuality has a physical underpinning and is not learned behavior.

Similarities between the response of lesbians and straight men were not as strong as between homosexual men and straight women.It shows sexual orientation may very well have a different basis between men and women ... this is not just a mirror image situation.

The important thing is to be open to the likely situation that there are biological factors that contribute to sexual orientation.

What do you think? Do lesbians have more in common with straight men or with other women? Add your comments below.

I AM WHAT I AM

2008-01-09T22:14:00.000-08:00

I started to appreciate the same sex when I was in my elementary years. I thought It was quit odd because I was a bit uncomfortable about it. My family (clan) has some history of having Lesbian members.
I was really attracted to her, she was (is still) a butch. Her name was Bing. Every time I sit in class with her, I always could not stop looking in her direction. And every time our eyes met, I could not hide my red face. I liked the feeling.
Eventually as years passed, my family and I decided to relocate. I left the Philippines when I was only 10 yrs old. With in those many years, I never had thought about what I felt with the same sex, maybe because I was surrounded with boys and femmes in school and was very busy with school work and adjusting to the new environment. It was then with in the 11yrs in Bahrain I got married. I was 21 and had a baby boy and graduated college.
After 11yrs in Bahrain, my family and I relocated again. My husband and I were separated because of work. He was based in Mosul, Iraq while I stayed in Canada with my parents and my little son. With in 4 years my relationship with my husband was not good. I got hooked up with some girls here and there. So I decided to work with DHL so I can be based in Iraq to be with him. And there I was, Baghdad, Iraq. It did not help.
I was 26 when I got back in the Philippines to be legally separated. And I was.
During my stay in the Philippines I met someone of the same sex who literally moved in with me. I then made a comparison. Men can be sometimes clueless. It was that time I realized I was more comfortable with women. she was a butch.
2006 was a disaster year for me. It was the year my x-husband knew about my Lesbian relationships back in Canada, it was also the year I finally told my parents about me because they found out a woman was living in with me. it was that year i lost hundreds of thousands because of my Atty. and it was that year that i had my worst night mare with her. It was not good. My relationship with her did not last that long. I get on with my life and she did too. I had relationships with men... 2 to be exact and it never lasted. I decided to stay away from any relationships.... but it was not successful. I got very attracted to WOMEN.... of any sort. Dykes, Butch or Femmes.... I had been with them non stop. It didn't bother me what people say since my parents knew already of what I've become and they still love me for that.
2007, it wasn't such a bad year. It was the year that I got accepted in my first job in the Philippines, it was where I met knew friends at work, It was the year I met someone really special and it was the year I accepted myself as a Lesbian. And most of all, It was the year my parents, relatives and friends accepted who I am.
Finally 2008!!!! I really don't know what would go wrong this year. Maybe CASH!!!!! like other normal people do.... but I feel happy, comfortable, proud and sincere of who I become.
I realized why would I be ashamed of it? People on drugs are supposed to be the ones to be ashamed, people in denial, hypocrites and God knows who else.
I Love women, I Love my son, I Love the Lord, I Love my friends, I Love my family, I Love my life. this is what I have and this is who I am. All we need to do is know ourselves and accept it. Life is like a book with many chapters in it. Don't be a critic and don't make a grin after you read this.

ALICIA KEYS, A LES TOO!

2008-01-09T19:19:00.000-08:00

ALICIA KEYS IS REALLY MAKING THE ROUNDS. ALL THE LESBIANS OF THE WORLD (QUEEN, MISSY, MC LYTE) SHOULD BE REAL PROUD. MISS THING LOOKS ABSOLUTELY FABULOUS IN THIS PICTURE.
Alicia Keys says she looked “rough around the edges.” But now that’s all changed. BUTCH LESBIANS ALWAYS LOOK ROUGH!

WHAT ABOUT LIPSTICK LESBIANS?

2008-01-09T19:08:00.000-08:00

A lipstick lesbian is a slang term for a stereotypically feminine lesbian who is attracted to other feminine women, rather than a lesbian who is attracted to more masculine women, such as in a "butch and femme"-type relationship. It is also used to describe a homosexual (or bisexual) woman who exhibits feminine gender attributes, such as wearing make-up (thus, lipstick), wearing dresses or skirts, having a love of shopping, and perhaps having other characteristics associated with feminine women. In mainstream American films, lesbians are often portrayed according to the lipstick lesbian stereotype to be both politically safer and more sexually attractive to male viewers. A good example is Showtime's television series The L Word, which presents most of its major lesbian characters in this way. Most lesbians in mainstream pornography are also portrayed in this way.
The term was used in San Francisco at least as far back as the 1980s. In 1982, Priscilla Rhoades, a journalist with the gay newspaper The Sentinel, wrote a feature story on "Lesbians for Lipstick." The term is thought to have emerged in wide usage during the early 1990s. A 1997 episode of the television show Ellen widely publicized the phrase. In the show, Ellen DeGeneres's character, asked by her parents whether a certain woman is a "dipstick lesbian," explains that the term is "lipstick lesbian," and comments that "I would be a chapstick lesbian."
In 1999, columnist Mark Steyn called actress Anne Heche, who was dating DeGeneres at the time, "the world's most famous lipstick lesbian." [1]
A distinction is sometimes drawn between the phrases "lipstick lesbian" and "chapstick lesbian" and the older phrases butch and femme by suggesting that the former phrases simply refer to appearance, whereas the latter imply mutual attraction of the two types. "Chapstick lesbians" are often considered soft butch.
The term has also been reinterpreted as a derogatory reference to feigned lesbianism — implying that it is as easy as lipstick to add or remove.
An alternate term for "lipstick lesbian" is "doily dyke."

ARE YOU A CHAPSTICK LESBIAN?

2008-01-09T19:03:00.000-08:00

A soft butch — also known as a chapstick lesbian — is a woman who exhibits some stereotypical butch lesbian traits without fitting the masculine stereotype associated with butch lesbians. These traits may or may not include short hair, clothing that was designed for men, and masculine mannerisms and behaviors. Soft butches generally appear androgynous, rather than adhering to strictly feminine or masculine norms. In the spectrum of gender expression among lesbians, a soft butch lies closer to a butch lesbian than to a lipstick lesbian.
This type of behaviour is also considered socially acceptable of alternate gender roles within the lesbian community. Whereas it is sometimes considered a betrayal of the lesbian community to be "too feminine" or "too masculine", the soft butch is an acceptable in-between state that generally receives greater acceptance.

BUTCH and FEMME TODAY

2008-01-09T18:58:00.000-08:00

Many young people today (in the homosexual community) eschew butch or femme classifications, believing that they are inadequate to describe an individual, or that labels are limiting in and of themselves. Some people within the queer community have tailored the common labels to be more descriptive, such as "soft stud," "hard butch," "gym queen," or "tomboy femme." Comedian Elvira Kurt contributed the term "fellagirly" as a description for queer females who are not strictly either femme or butch, but a combination.
Lesbians and genderqueers who identify as Butch or Femme have experienced a renaissance as the Internet has brought the butch-femme community together. To be either butch or femme challenges traditional gender roles and expectations about appropriate gender presentation and desire, and expands the concept of what it means to be female. Some femme men, femme women, and butch women regard themselves thus as genderqueer for that reason, but many others do not. Moreover, some genderqueer people identify their gender primarily as butch or femme, rather than man or woman.
It is also important to note that those who identify as butch and femme today often use the words to define their presentation and gender identity rather than strictly the role they play in a relationship, and that not all butches are attracted exclusively to femmes and not all femmes are exclusively attracted to butches, although this was traditionally the norm.

FYI on Lesbians

2008-01-09T18:00:00.000-08:00

Science > Science Dictionary

lesbian
A homosexual woman.

Words > Dictionary

lesbian(lĕz'bē-ən)
A woman whose sexual orientation is to women.adj.
Of, relating to, or being a lesbian. See Usage Note at gay.
[From the putative homosexuality of Sappho, lyric poet of Lesbos.]

Words > Thesaurus

lesbian adjective
Of, relating to, or having a sexual orientation to members of one's own sex: gay,

A lesbian is a woman who is romantically and sexually attracted only to other women. [1][2] Women who are attracted to both women and men are more often referred to as bisexual. An individual's self-identification might not correspond with her behavior, and may be expressed with either, both, or neither of these words.

Public policy
In Western societies, explicit prohibitions on women's homosexual behavior have been markedly weaker than those on men's homosexual behavior.
In the United Kingdom, lesbianism has never been illegal. In contrast, sexual activity between males was not made legal in England and Wales until 1967. It is said that lesbianism was left out of the Criminal Law Amendment Act of 1885 because Queen Victoria did not believe sex between women was possible, but this story may be apocryphal.[3] A 1921 proposal, put forward by Frederick Macquisten MP to criminalize lesbianism was rejected by the House of Lords; during the debate, Lord Birkenhead, the then Lord Chancellor argued that 999 women out of a thousand had "never even heard a whisper of these practices."[4] In 1928, the lesbian novel The Well of Loneliness was banned for obscenity in a highly publicized trial, not for any explicit sexual content but because it made an argument for acceptance.[5] Meanwhile other, less political novels with lesbian themes continued to circulate freely.[6]

Sexual activity between women is as diverse as sex between heterosexuals or gay men. Some women in same-sex relationships do not identify as lesbian, but as bisexual, queer, or another label. As with any interpersonal activity, sexual expression depends on the context of the relationship.

Media depictions
Lesbians often attract media attention, particularly in relation to feminism, love and sexual relationships, marriage and parenting. Some writers have asserted this trend can lead to exploitive and unjustified plot devices.[7]

Vibrating Tongue Rings - The Lix

2008-01-08T19:20:00.000-08:00

JJK Industries has released a line of oral vibrators for pierced tongues. The Lix novelty vibrating tongue rings were created for the growing population of people with pierced tongues, and everyone’s love for oral pleasures.
“Everyone knows tongue rings enhance oral bliss. So we created the Lix vibrating tongue ring. Lix turns any ordinary pierced tongue into a vibrating, mind-blowing joy ride!” said Amy French, JJK Industries Customer Service Manager. The Lix novelty vibrating tongue rings were created for the growing population of people with pierced tongues, and everyone’s love for oral pleasures. (lixvibrator)

http://www.trendhunter.com/trends/new-vibrating-tongue-ring-called-lix

WELL KNOWN SHANE - L word

2008-01-08T18:49:00.000-08:00

Ever since the L word series came out in television, Shane was and is the favorite "need to watch".

From her clothes, make up, accessories and the catch!

True, she is a heart throb person... my undies would fall if she just asked me for a light for her ziggys.

But anyway, click on the picture to see what make up accessories she uses, maybe you might get hold of some and look like her.... and if you do, let me know!!! ***wink***

CONFUSED or NO USE ( ? )

2008-01-08T17:40:00.000-08:00

Little girl staring at four women while her mother was reading the news paper in the jeepney (public transportation). The lady - shall we call her "A" coughed, sighed and went back fiddling around her mobile phone. Lady "B" coughed too... looked at her watch and stared to the other person in front of her. Lady "C" coughed as well, took her money and paid. While Lady "D" sits and tried to relax waiting to reach her destination.
The little girl can't stopped noticing the kind of clothes their wearing. Almost exactly the same. 2 of the ladies wore trashed jeans and the other 2 wore light textiled shorts. (sort of purontong) Their tops were sort of the same too. 2 wore a little tight shirts and the other 2 wore just a shirt that fits them.
But, while the little girls was on her deep observation, she noticed each of the 4 ladies had different ways of expressing their selves- meaning, they have different way of looking at their watches, the way the sit etc. The little girl also notices that Lady "A" was constantly looking at Lady "C" and vice versa. While Lady "B" was staring at some one in front of her and Lady "D" staring at Lady "B".
Little girl could not understand what was going on.... she mumbles to herself: " If Lady "A" was staring at Lady "C" and vice versa, why is it that Lady "B" was staring at the man in front of her since Lady "D" is staring at her?????????????
Little girl of age 9 carefully observed every little action each 4 made.
Okay, here's the catch, if you were that little girl who saw every little move those 4 ladies made, what would you think? Would you make a conclusion or give benefit of the doubt or won't bother............. if you consider yourself from a 3rd community, you know what it is.
This will be continued.... they still have a long way to go.

Am I Just Envy or What?

2008-01-08T01:15:00.000-08:00

okay here goes.. every time i look at photographs of cute cute and happy couples together (Lesbians) i suddenly stare at those photographs and my mind starts to wonder. why is it that every time i have a chance to see photographs of such, why do i always feel my stomach aching and having deep breaths!!!
i've been in a good relationship twice too many, most of it were of happy memories...i do have cute happy photographs of my X's too. But looking at other's photographs is different for me. i always want to be in that photograph, i want to experience what they feel.
is that normal? i always ask my self that.
i used to cheat on my ex-girlfirend because of this foolish question. i see another women and take photos of her.. silly ha? then compare them with my girlfriends photos... and i won't stop until i found contentment on any of the photographs taken. i know i was stupid and wrong, so wrong that i lost someone who cared about me so much.
i stopped that habbit for a while now, and glad that i did. but, eventually i still have that stomach aches and deep breaths every time i see photographs, not just a photograph but a photograph of happy lesbian couple. i've been in that road before and i am still now. foolish of me to feel like this. i think that every time i see different photographs of couples, i see different emotional figure of the couple taken, and each emotional figure makes me want to feel it too.... WHAT????? I have lots of emotions... but why want the others?
or maybe, i need to be content... i am content ***thinking*** i need to teach myself to be satisfied.... happy and thankful.
whatever it is, i still do have those stomach aches and deep breaths every time i see happy lesbian couples.... or perhaps i feel happy for them.... maybe or i don't know!

Lindsay's into it as well!!!!

2008-01-08T00:02:00.000-08:00

Apparently Lindsay is spending her time at Promises trying to rehab her relationship with Samantha Ronson as much as she’s dealing with her drug problem, but hopefully she’s doing better with the drugs …
According to Star magazine, Lindsay and SamRo have been sending extremely charged MySpace and text messages back and forth ever since Lindsay checked into rehab. “Babe, if I don’t have you in my life then I should just go die,” wrote Lindsay one night. “Your [sic] all I have to live for, babe. I want to marry you and have children with you. I need you to live!”
Wrote Samantha: “You still have me. I’m here for you. With you.” Although Samantha was on-hand to spin the records at Lindsay’s recent 21st birthday party in Malibu, she has reportedly been encouraging Lindsay to find a partner who can help her stay sober, as Samantha struggles with drug problems of her own. Lindsay gets upset each time Samantha tries to end things.
“I love you,” said Lindsay. “You love me. Why don’t we fuck and make a family … Babe, don’t leave me like this I FUCKING LOVE YOU!”
Lindsay sends Samantha a “virtual kiss” each night from rehab. “Go to bed babe,” she writes. “I love you – [signed] Lindsay Ronson.”
Samantha’s part of the reason Lindsay’s even in rehab. They met on the club circuit three years ago, and their relationship quickly became more than just a friendship, and the Memorial Day weekend drunken car crash Lindsay was involved in came as she was having a drunk and loaded argument with Samantha, supposedly because Lindsay refused to call Samantha her girlfriend.

LOVE IS NEVER WRONG

2008-01-07T21:53:00.000-08:00

PURPLE... a Lesbian color?

2008-01-07T21:33:00.000-08:00

The color purple (or, more accurately, lavender) became popularized as a symbol for pride in the late 1960s - a frequent post-Stonewall catchword for the gay community was “Purple Power”.
Purple as a gay / lesbian color was pushed into pop-culture in 1999 by Rev. Jerry Falwell and his kinky Tinky Winky theory. Falwell said that Tinky Winky, the TV Teletubby from Itsy Bitsy Entertainment and PBS, is in all likelihood gay.
Why? Like Barney, Tinky Winky is purple. Tinky Winky carries a bag. Tinky Winky has a triangular antenna on his head. Purple, the gay pride color, is a pretty good tip-off. The so-called magic bag? A purse, and you know what that means. But the triangular antenna is the clincher. A big gay pride signal.
Whenever I see someone wearing a triangular antenna on his head, the first thing I always think is: gay. Or at least very happy.

OUR SYMBOLS

2008-01-07T20:37:00.000-08:00

Entwined rings of the sexes depict mixing of the different sexual (human) beings. It is an illustration of the natural mixing of the sexes, male with male, female with female and male with female. It also depicts male-male-female and female-female-male mixing clearly symbolizing coupling and interrelations of all the sexes in all possible combinations. This symbol captures the freedom of sexual will or orientation.

2008-01-07T20:31:00.001-08:00

For many years, bisexuals were left out of both heterosexual and homosexual society. Being neither lesbian/gay or straight, they had no symbols of their own for pride in being who they are. So, the overlapping triangles were created as a symbol of pride in being bisexual. This is (as far as I know) the most commonly used and accepted bisexual pride symbol. It should be noted that there have been many other variations on the use of a triangle as a pride symbol. Some of the variations include the rainbow triangle and the lavender triangle. Other triangles show pride in being lgbt AND being of a particular race or culture.

2008-01-07T19:28:00.001-08:00

The Gender Symbols
The gender symbols were originally common astrological signs coming from Roman times. The interlocking male symbols have been used since the 1970's as a symbol of pride for gay men. The interlocking female symbols are used as a lesbian pride symbol. Some feminists also use the double female symbol (one ring with two crosses) as a symbol of sisterhood among women. Trans persons sometimes use a symbol created by one ring, one cross, and one arrow. Other times this symbol is used to show that a person enjoys bending the gender lines in any way or that they understand and support the blurring of the strict gender boundaries.

FRIENDS... they are important....

2008-01-07T18:13:00.001-08:00

Yah, I have few, but they are all with quality.... I used to have so many before *sigh* but then in times when I am down they are all gone!!! What did I do wrong? But I stopped searching for the answer, and these wonderful people *smiles* you see in the pictures found me!!!! they make me laugh, they make me criticise *hehehehe* and they make me realize too. they taught me things that I never knew before, they make me wonder at times and they put my mind in peace. It was hard for me once to have these kinds of friends. I used to shower my old friends*grin* with money just so to keep them, but I then realized it was not the answer. The answer was... these new friends I have... regardless of their belief, color, gender, status or what so ever... I love them. And I am glad *clapping* to have them in my life.

Im totally out of my closet...

2008-01-07T17:18:00.000-08:00

20008!!!! After 27 yrs of my life, I came to realize how I enjoy looking at a woman's beauty.... of any sort.....
mmm... yah. I was once married got a 5 yr old son. I love men. *errrrrrrr* I was so attracted to them that I can't stop my self but to drool over them.
But... when this Lady (back when I was in Canada) named Jessica, came up to me and said " do u have any idea where I can find the admin office?" I stared at her and started noticing how lovely her mouth was, *yah yah it was a mouth that I was not able to stop looking at* then it was the beginning of my search for what we call WHAT DO I REALLY WANT thigy.....
Jesse *thats what I call her* and I we were school mates, lunch mates, smikong mates, drinking mates until we were literally MATES... *wink* I got scared at first. I didn't know what, whay or how!!!!
I admire or shall I say love the way she talks, walks and tie her hair... then the KISS. From that moment I had my first SAME-SEX Kiss.... I liked it. So much.
I got devorced 2 years after that!!!! But in between those time, I had been hooked up with women. It was women every where that I see... not Men anymore... *eeeerrr yah* Dykes, Soft Butch or Femme... I just love them. It was hard for me to tell that to my Parents...friends.... it was not that accepted to the society yet. It was hard for me to give public affection to my partner... but somehow managed to do so at times!!!!
Am I ashame????????? NOPE. I'd rather show what I really am rather than keep it inside with confused mind and stressed emotions.
This is what I feel. and if you feel it... try it. give it a chance to know the real you. This is 2008 and what else could go wrong?!