Top 10 First Lesbian Date Mistakes to Avoid

We'll all been there. The girl looks so promising on her online profile, or when you meet her at the bar. You've taken that brave first step and asked her on a date, so now don't screw it up. Here are the top first date mistakes lesbians need to avoid.

2. Don't Answer Your Cell Phone

You might think she'll be impressed with the number of times your phone goes off in one night. Boy, aren't you popular! Really, she'll be more impressed if you focus your attention on her. Turn the cell phone off and put it in your pocket.

3. Don't Talk Too Much About Your Ex

It's okay to mention that you've had exes and even how long you were together. But don't go on and on about what a mean and evil bitch she was, how she threw a rock through your window and kidnapped your cat. Likewise, don't tell her how much you were in love with her and how you thought you were going to spend the rest of your lives together. Put your past behind you and focus on the future.

4. Don't Get Drunk

One or two drinks is fine, but know your limit. No one wants to worry about how a date they just met is going to drive herself home, or worse, watch her throw-up in the bathroom.

5. Don't Take her to a Place Where All Your Friends Are

You asked her on a date because you want to get to know her. You don't need your friend making a face at you from across the room or interrupting your conversation. Go someplace you feel comfortable, but where you can talk in private.

6. Don't Get Too Maudlin

Keep it light. Sure you can talk about serious issues if they're meaningful to you, but don't drone on and on about depressing topics. Take your cue from her body language. Is she tuning out? Change the topic.

7. Don't Plan too Long of a Date

Keep the first date short and simple. Don't invite her up for a day of apple picking, bike riding, dinner and hot tubbing. Go for coffee, ice cream or a simple dinner. You don't want to be stuck all day with someone if things don't go well. Or if things do go well, you want to save some activities for the second and third dates.

8. Don't Get Too High Expectations

It's a first date. Nothing more. Don't start making plans to move in together or start believing you're now "girlfriends."

9. Don't Play Games

If the date's not going well and you want a way out, simply say it was nice meeting her and excuse yourself. Don't have your friends call you and pretend there's been an accident and you need to come quickly. Be honest. Don't say you want a second date if you don't intend to follow through.

10. Don't Be Rude

Show up on time. Be nice to her and to any wait staff or people you encounter. Let her see your best side, even if you never intend to see her again. Remember, she may have a friend you're interested in.

TORN BETWEEN TWO.........

Yes,... never expected this things to happen to me... as everyone knows...and has been following by blogs, we all know I am in a relationship for 3 yrs now...but things had changed...
It all began when I met one of my trainees... followed by simple txt messages, followed by short visitations at my office then followed by longer meetings followed by.... I guess you know what I mean.... It was going on for a month and thought that I won't fall for her, but I did eventually... unfortunately my girlfriend never had the idea of my feeling for this other girl....This other girl knew about my girlfriend too and I also know about hers... they've been together for 5 years, and never had she cheated on her...
I fell for her and she did too, unfortunately we were both not ready to begin a new relationship. My relationship with my girlfriend is in a boat floating on big waves..... so as we speak. That reasoned out for me to venture to another that ended up in heart ache...
It ended with the other girl.... although she broke up with her girlfriend, but she came back running for her... reason? a lot though... and I'm left in a tragedy of reasoning out what is there for me...
Yes, I have to put a closure with my girlfriend... its hard but I need to do it slowly... it wont be fair for her if I go on without the same feelings anymore. 3 years might be too long, but its the quality of the relationship that counts.
The hardest part is that the entire family knows her already, accepted her too... the fact that she lives with me..... wow!!!
Now I am just hoping not to be in a rebound relationship. As of the other girl, she told me to back off.......HURTS!!!!!