Are you ready to be labeled?

You will know you are a lesbian when you are ready to label yourself as one. It's really okay.

As you continue to figure it out, here are some things to consider:

**When you are with a girl you are attracted to, does your belly do flip-flops?
**When you hear love songs on the radio, do you think of guys or girls?
**Who do you fantasize about?
**If you have the choice of spending time with a girl you like or a boy you like, which do you choose?
**Who do you enjoy kissing more? Men or women?

Please don't think you have to sleep with someone to figure it out. While sex is a big part of sexual orientation, it is not the only part. Listen also with your heart and your head.

Be easy on yourself. In time you will figure it out. Coming out is one of the hardest things a person will ever do. I encourage you to talk with supportive friends, read books with gay and lesbian characters.

Difference between Lesbian and Gay woman

As I understand it, taking on the label lesbian is more of a political statement, like an identity. Gay woman is less political, like someone who dates women, but isn't involved at all in the gay and lesbian community. What do you think? How would you define the difference between the terms "lesbian" and "gay woman?"