MUST SEE LESBIAN MOVIES

Then Came Lola (2009) >>A talented, but distracted photographer, Lola, on the verge of success in both love and work, could lose it all if she doesn't make it to a crucial meeting on time. But, as usual, Lola is late. With her job and girlfriend on the line, she has three chances to make it right. In a desperate race through the streets and back rooms of San Francisco, time grows short-will Lola make it? Will she come at all? With a pop sensibility that mixes live action, animation and still photography, And Then Came Lola explores love's age old question in a fresh new way, "If you try, try again, will you finally get it right?"

Go Fish (1994) >> Max is a trendy, pretty, young lesbian, who is having trouble finding love. A friend sets her up with Ely...

I really like both movies. Then came lola is a drama-comedy-romance. Pretty showed a lot of characters and facts of whats going on with lesbian life.
While Go Fish is a drama-romance... it's pretty old movie but, the catch is that it showed a lot of ideas between the "wannabe lesbians and the real ones". Am not really sure if they released this movie here in the Phil. But you may watch it in Megavid or Videoweed on PC.

Are you a Pansexual OR a Polysexual?

When we say that we are LESBIANS... we have to know all the right terms, styles, the way it's said and so on and so forth. So many of people say that they are Les as simple as it can be, but they really don't have any idea how broad this spectrum is.

As I had mentioned before, there are different types of Lesbians, now just for some information, there are two different MAIN SEXUALITY. Making you confused? I believe so. Anyway here is the simplest explanation to it. And hope you can judge yourself after.

1. A pansexual (pan meaning "all"), in terms of sexual orientation, is someone with the capacity to be attracted to someone regardless of their sex, including those who may be transgendered/transsexual/butch/dykes/gays/femmes/soft-butch.

2. A polysexual (poly meaning "many"), in terms of sexual orientation, is someone with the capacity to be attracted to many genders, but not necessarily all of them, dykes/butch/gays/femmes/soft-butch but never on transgender and transsexual.

There you have it... now we can say that it ain't easy to be a real Lesbian. It ain't just for fun to be one and definitely it ain't because it's a hip to be one. If ever you're attracted to men in any ways, then you're BIsexual... you can never say you're a LESbian. NEVER.

How do lesbian have sex? Straight people ask...

PLEASE NOTE THAT:

Your tongue and fingers can do everything. Toys can add to the fun, but are not necessary.

• Oral sex to one another


• Preform oral sex at the same time with each other in the '69' position.


• Scissoring, where they touch their genitals together and or rub them.


• Strap-on sex, where a harness equipped with a dilldo is worn by one woman and she penetrates the vagina, anus, or both.


• There are however several other methods which facilitate non-sex aid love making such as scissoring/tribadism, mutual masturbation and oral sex.


• You don't need to strap on a penis. If you're really good all you need is your tongue and fingers. At least most lesbians think it's better.


• Speaking from personal experience and as a lesbian, most lesbian couples enjoy a far more enriched sex life than most hetero couples due to the levels of intimacy attainable by women and a greater knowledge of how to satisfy someone of the same gender.


• There are however several other methods which facilitate non-sex aid love making such as scissoring/tribadism, mutual masturbation and oral sex.
  

It's now up to you how you can imagine it... what straight couples do, lesbians can also do...

Is it fun being a lesbian?

>>>Lesbians don't do so just for the sake of fun! They are like the rest of us needing someone in their lives only their sexual orientation is different than heterosexuals.If you are a straight person then don't be pressured to try bisexuality or becoming a lesbian. Being gay is still a very controversial debate in society and it's not an easy road to take if you are a true lesbian.

Being a lesbian is very wonderful and fulfilling and beautiful and comforting and sensual and emotional. Between lesbians there can be radical equality, mystical unions, love, cuddling, sexuality, warmth, nurturing, support, humor, understanding, patience, healing, safety, community, female energy, and total intimacy.

Fulfilling and on more of an emotional level than being with a man if you are a true lesbian. I feel more connected and understood than I even did with a man. We also understand our little tiffs and attitudes and what it means more than the man. Plus the sex is great considering we have the same parts ;-). But I do have to say the public eye can be quite harsh. Public affection can't/won't happen in most places unless you want some horrid looks and comments. It can also be hard to come out to family, most likely not friends, and if your friends dismiss you, you don't need them. Being a lesbian is wonderful, if it the right way for you.

If you are a true lesbian and not a want to be it's better that with guys because a girl knows what a girl wants. It's nice to treat her the way you want to be treated, and sex can be more gratifying if the two are lesbians. She knows where all your sensitive spots are; she knows when you're in the mood, and women's ejaculation is so good.

You don't have the social rules like if you want sex you don't need to pretend that you'd love to invite someone to dinner...or you don't have to pretend with your other friends that you love the other person enough to make out and you can be you (if you are a lesbian! You experiment equality! It's awesome when you totally come out.

If two people are lesbians then their experiences can certainly be gratifying, but don't buy into the fact if you are straight and feel becoming a lesbian you will have a faultless relationship. Having lesbian friends they have been honest with me in saying that when two women are having their menses cycle it's like putting two Pitt Bulls into a sack! Lesbians are not much different than straight couples and have their problems and their arguments and some cheat on each other. Others fall out of love and move on. If you're straight remain straight and for those who are lesbians then try to find the right woman for a good relationship because sex isn't the number one factor in a good relationship and it's loyalty, honesty, staying power, and good communication skills just like straight people have to learn.

How do you know if you are a lesbian?

ANSWER:
If you find that you are only attracted to females in a sexual/romantic way, then you are most likely a lesbian. If being in a relationship with a female is something that feels right to you and being in a relationship with a male just is not right for you, then you are most likely a lesbian.

ANSWER:
Have you ever experimented with another girl before or is it just a physical attraction and not a sexual one? If it's only physical then you probably aren't I mean i find it to be perfectly natural to find someone of the same of the same sex attractive as long as you don't think of that person in a sexual manner. But if it's both sexual and physical then you might just be open-minded as long as you still are attracted to men. I hope i helped answer your question.

ANSWER:
If you enjoyed the lesbian experience you are attracted to women, but you might not be a lesbian. If you're still attracted to men you're bi.

ANSWER:
Well if you like a girl or a boy more than you r friends than you are very likely to be gay or lesbian. if you like a boy and a girl than you are probably bi. but don't worry cause everybody are what they are.

ANSWER:
If you find that you are attracted to both males and females in a sexual/romantic way, you are probably bisexual. If you are just as comfortable being in a relationship (or imagining being in a relationship) with a female as you are when in a relationship (or imagining...) with a male, you are probably bisexual.
Your sexuality is something that can only be determined by you, yourself. However, some people never find a label that truly fits them. You may find that neither of the terms "bisexual," or "lesbian" really fits you, & it's okay if it they do not. Not everyone can be categorized so easily.

ANSWER:
There is no real answer to that! I'm sorry to say. I will tell you a bit about how I found out, maybe that will help.
I'm a girl of course. Around my 4th grade year, I was noticing that I had a tendency to dress in male clothing. And I had a lot of thoughts about kissing some of my friends that were female. I didn't understand at that point.
Before 8th grade a girl asked me out, at first we were just joking, before I knew it we both took it seriously. I thought liking girls was just a phase that I would pass out of. But, I notice that seeing a female not in clothing drove me wild.
And kissing them was so pleasing, that I came to terms that I was bisexual. I still like guys, but I've liked girls for about more than 8 years now. I couldn't be any happier.
Hope this helps. If you don't know what your feeling, try something with a girl, if you enjoy it and continue to enjoy it... then most likely you are bisexual or lesbian. but if you find that you don't like guys anymore, or you find that you still like guys, that is just how it goes. Be strong, for if you are bisexual or lesbian, you might be in for a rough life.
Bi is when you are interested and act with both sexes. Lesbian is when your interest and actions are only is women.

ANSWER:
When you are in love with another woman.

ANSWER:
If you can get similarly exited by both males and females you are Bi if you are not turned on or sexually attracted by women then you are lesbian. However it is all a matter of degrees, the sexual act in itself is enjoyable and to enjoy it with some one else of either sex need have nothing to do with your sexual orientation.
If you are attracted to other women and have strong 'love' bonds and feelings towards them, you might be a lesbian. To find out for sure, have a relationship with another woman and then you'll know.

ANSWER:
Most women who are lesbians (and most gay men) say they know something is "up" between the ages of 7-10.
While most straight teens go through normal "crushes" on the same sex, these feelings usually fade, if they occur at all. However, for a gay person, these feelings usually grow stronger and any initial feelings of attraction to the opposite sex fade, unless this person is bisexual.
Most importantly, being gay or lesbian is not merely about wanting to have sex with the same sex--straight women sometimes have flings with other women, and gay people often have sex with the opposite sex. While physical attraction is a strong component, most gays, and especially lesbians, find an emotional attraction that is equally strong, if not stronger.
If you're over 21, the test would be this: If you are a woman who fantasizes about being with another woman--do you also want to wake up with her in the morning, have coffee and go on a long walk through the park holding hands? If not, you're probably not a lesbian.
Only you know if you are gay or not. No one else can answer that.

Look into your heart. Is this how you feel ? Do you feel like you are gay? Have you ever experimented? Time will tell.

Lesbian? What kind of a Lesbian?

Now in real life, when you say you're a lesbian it doesn't mean that you have to wear like what men wears... a woman in high heels, lipsitck and skirts can be a lesbian. When we say Lesbians that mean you are attracted to women, no matter how they dress up as long they are women. As I've noticed here in the Philippines, if you're a lesbian you have to wear baggy jeans, big shirt or men's clothing... nope. It's not necessary like that. Those women who wear those are called Butch or Dykes... still in the group of being lesbians. Women who wears just jeans, fit shirts, sneakers, black nail polishes are called Soft-Butch. Women who wears skirts, heels, make ups are called femmes, and all of these categories are Lesbians....


1. Butch / Dykes : These are lesbians that wears jeans, shirts, caps and pop-ups. They naturally act like men, talk like men and never have a touch of their feminine side. These kind of lesbians are always attracted to femmes.


2. Soft butch : These are lesbians who wear skinny jeans or jeans, fit shirt, sneakers, slippers, sling bags, eyeliner, lip gloss and sometimes nail polish in short nails. They can be attracted to Butch / Dykes, femmes and even soft butch like them.


3. Femmes : These are lesbians who wear heels, skirts, make ups, nail polish in long nails, acts very poised and never will can you figure out if they are lesbian. These are women who normally gets attracted to butch / dykes and even sometimes femmes like them.


4. Gay : A lesbian who can be both ways at times. A soft butch or Femme. Normally is attracted to Butch / dyke and Soft Butch. They can wear either the soft butch style or the femme style.




When we say Lesbian.... there is a lot to it. So, which one are you? I am gay... so gay and I'm proud of it.

My kind of WOMEN.....

As requested by a "frequent - friend" reader... (lol) this are the answers to your questions... hope it will answer your questionsssssss =)

I like it both ways. Meaning I am attracted to soft butch and butch... I have nothing against dykes and femmes... But I really don't know why I always get so attracted to these kind of women.... I believe because I kind of see myself through them and it makes me comfortable with people like them...

Here are some photos that will give you a sort of an idea of the women i normally date and get so attracted to...

So there you have it.... yup these are my types.
A lot of people are kind of confused when it comes to being a Lesbian. They make it so complicated, don't really know why. I mean for a fact when you say your a tomboy, that does not mean that you have to wear like men do or act like men do.... it's being expressive of the real you.

AND THIS IS SO ME =) don't get me wrong... I also wear sunday dresses, short skirts and all.... but you will see me normally on clothes such as this.....=)

Thanks for reading... and keep on reading!!! PEACE!

The Rainbow (LGBT's pride) Flag... it's meaning

Now, if you're really a Lesbian, well you must know the meanings of each color of our symbol flag... the rainbow flag we call it... and the LGBT? Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transgender..... A head start for newbies...

Growing up in Canada gave me all the insight of the 3rd community. And am glad to be able to share it down south in the Philippines... for some, it is easier for them to say I am Lesbian, but before you say it you must know the truth about being a Lesbian.... not because u like a girl that doesn't mean you are a Les already... ooohh there is so much to experience before you can finally say you are a Les...

Well here are the meanings of our PRIDE.

Colors of the Rainbow Flag:
The original flag had eight stripes from top to bottom: pink (sexuality), red (life), orange (healing), yellow (sunlight), green (nature), turquoise (magic), indigo/blue (serenity), and violet (spirit). Within a year, the flag had shed two of its stripes—pink and violet. According to Gilbert, they "ran out of pink dye." The violet stripe was later taken out to create an even number of stripes on the flag.Since, many variations of the flag have been created. For instance, a black stripe is added to some symbolizing those lost to AIDS. There are also variations to represent bisexual people, bears and others.

I WAS DAMNED & KARMAD

I'm a murderer, of feelings that is. I don't know if I was born to do that or is it my choice... maybe lots of you would say it's a matter of choice... I did choose... but still ending up unfaithful!!!

I believe that it's hard for others to please me, and so to please myself... in a minute I like this and in a while I don't coz I found better and ending up messing things so bad. I can be in a relationship for like years and years, but please do not expect me to be faithful... mmm in the first 3 months yes will, but I really couldn't help myself pleasing others too.... it suck to be me, believe me. But, but... if I really like the person that I'm with, it's like all or nothing. I give my best and make sure that she's one hell happy person in bed and in relationship...

People might think I'm a bad and a foolish person that doesn't need to be given much attention... but, I'm nice - that's what they say, and I believe them, my friends calls me "under the table job"... you know what I mean. It's just that I can't be faithful all the time. BUT I always remember, acknowledge and appreciate things that were given and done to me... at all times. I'm not just faithful.

I was or still am in my now 4 year relationship... living in - for that matter and she caught me being unfaithful several times... the reason I feels like can't really leave her is that she does millions of things for me on my favor. And I feel that I can't live without her, but somehow feels like I have to let go of her coz it ain't fair for her... I know. Every time I think about it, it melts my heart... but there's a feeling that damns me... like a whisper saying "go have fun, don't worry to much". I can't really assume to myself that I'm a player... coz I'm not.

There was a story I actually posted here weeks ago about this girl I really like... we were both taken... had years relationship, but we were doing great. Until the day came she chose to be with her 5 yr GF... It was like she was forced to chose her coz her GF was like paying for everything.... Told her that doesn't matter - - money doesn't matter shit to me. Now I'm paying for all the damn things I've done... I can't stop thinking about her, somehow I'm still hoping for her to get back, but no assurance that.... I'll be faithful to her too. Selfish right, I don't know, that's the way I am....

And then came another girl that was introduced to me by an office staff... she's cool.... kinda young, but..... but.... awesomely sexy... I believe she is a soft-butch, which is alright. And believe me, I kind of give up on her.... she is really hard, moody and irate... but I find her funny at times. I am really attracted to her and I'm trying to myself not to treat her like the others, good luck to me..... unfortunately after the days of trying, I found out we were cool as friends and I was happy to find it out. Why? because actually we have the same attitude and positive + positive will never attract right, it mus be negative + positive...

Alls well that ends well I may say... as for myself, I am enjoying life, NOT to the extent of using people... I just enjoy their company. Nothing more nothing less.

Top 10 First Lesbian Date Mistakes to Avoid

We'll all been there. The girl looks so promising on her online profile, or when you meet her at the bar. You've taken that brave first step and asked her on a date, so now don't screw it up. Here are the top first date mistakes lesbians need to avoid.

2. Don't Answer Your Cell Phone

You might think she'll be impressed with the number of times your phone goes off in one night. Boy, aren't you popular! Really, she'll be more impressed if you focus your attention on her. Turn the cell phone off and put it in your pocket.

3. Don't Talk Too Much About Your Ex

It's okay to mention that you've had exes and even how long you were together. But don't go on and on about what a mean and evil bitch she was, how she threw a rock through your window and kidnapped your cat. Likewise, don't tell her how much you were in love with her and how you thought you were going to spend the rest of your lives together. Put your past behind you and focus on the future.

4. Don't Get Drunk

One or two drinks is fine, but know your limit. No one wants to worry about how a date they just met is going to drive herself home, or worse, watch her throw-up in the bathroom.

5. Don't Take her to a Place Where All Your Friends Are

You asked her on a date because you want to get to know her. You don't need your friend making a face at you from across the room or interrupting your conversation. Go someplace you feel comfortable, but where you can talk in private.

6. Don't Get Too Maudlin

Keep it light. Sure you can talk about serious issues if they're meaningful to you, but don't drone on and on about depressing topics. Take your cue from her body language. Is she tuning out? Change the topic.

7. Don't Plan too Long of a Date

Keep the first date short and simple. Don't invite her up for a day of apple picking, bike riding, dinner and hot tubbing. Go for coffee, ice cream or a simple dinner. You don't want to be stuck all day with someone if things don't go well. Or if things do go well, you want to save some activities for the second and third dates.

8. Don't Get Too High Expectations

It's a first date. Nothing more. Don't start making plans to move in together or start believing you're now "girlfriends."

9. Don't Play Games

If the date's not going well and you want a way out, simply say it was nice meeting her and excuse yourself. Don't have your friends call you and pretend there's been an accident and you need to come quickly. Be honest. Don't say you want a second date if you don't intend to follow through.

10. Don't Be Rude

Show up on time. Be nice to her and to any wait staff or people you encounter. Let her see your best side, even if you never intend to see her again. Remember, she may have a friend you're interested in.

TORN BETWEEN TWO.........

Yes,... never expected this things to happen to me... as everyone knows...and has been following by blogs, we all know I am in a relationship for 3 yrs now...but things had changed...
It all began when I met one of my trainees... followed by simple txt messages, followed by short visitations at my office then followed by longer meetings followed by.... I guess you know what I mean.... It was going on for a month and thought that I won't fall for her, but I did eventually... unfortunately my girlfriend never had the idea of my feeling for this other girl....This other girl knew about my girlfriend too and I also know about hers... they've been together for 5 years, and never had she cheated on her...
I fell for her and she did too, unfortunately we were both not ready to begin a new relationship. My relationship with my girlfriend is in a boat floating on big waves..... so as we speak. That reasoned out for me to venture to another that ended up in heart ache...
It ended with the other girl.... although she broke up with her girlfriend, but she came back running for her... reason? a lot though... and I'm left in a tragedy of reasoning out what is there for me...
Yes, I have to put a closure with my girlfriend... its hard but I need to do it slowly... it wont be fair for her if I go on without the same feelings anymore. 3 years might be too long, but its the quality of the relationship that counts.
The hardest part is that the entire family knows her already, accepted her too... the fact that she lives with me..... wow!!!
Now I am just hoping not to be in a rebound relationship. As of the other girl, she told me to back off.......HURTS!!!!!

Almost Tempted

It was a time of my life that I was confronted by choices.... choices that needs a lot of thinking and consideration.

It was a tough time for me... never thought that I can manage somehow to give myself a favor, a favor of being mature. A favor of dealing things that doesn't need me to be selfish.... and I made my choice.

It was hard, but I sure did the right thing. Although I've hurt the person who showed me love, even for a quick tick of the time... but I have to consider; what about the person who loved me for 3 years? And then It kept me thinking... I thought of my happiness... satisfaction and the practical side of everything.

What I am talking about is about a girl that I just met a few times, never thought that it would create something that I must think about later one. As we all know I am with someone for the last 3 years - I love her dearly. But I never expected that at some point, I would even question myself about me and her. the new girl was okay, she comes around more often that I thought, spoke to her a lot of times... Never planned for her to fall in love with me... but as she said she did. Unfair!!! She knew I was with someone.... and I knew too she was with someone - whom I know too.

Well, it all end up to nothing.... I can't... I just can't. I love my Girl so much. Braking up would be the last thing I would do if the reason would be because of a 3rd party.

How To Keep Love Alive

Whether you're in a long-term relationship, or are just looking for new ways to woo the lady in your life, these tips will help you keep love and passion alive with your partner.

Difficulty: Average

Time Required: As much as you have to give

Here's How:

1. Tell her you love her. Do you do it enough? Be specific. Say, "Honey, you make me laugh," or "You're the sexiest person I've ever met." Only say it if you mean it. She'll know the difference.
2. Buy her flowers. Do it today! Don't just wait for a special occasion. Surprise her!
3. Take her out on a date. So many long-term couples don't go out on dates, especially if they live together or have kids. A date doesn't have to cost a lot of money. Go see an art opening or a free concert in the park.
4. Make a date for romance. Is your love life in a rut? Plan an evening of intimacy. Turn off the TV, light candles, put on some romantic music, send the kids to a baby sitter or get a hotel room.
5. Tell her she's beautiful.
6. Meet her at the door after a long day of work with a glass of wine and a hot drawn bath.
7. Sit behind her when you're watching TV and rub her shoulders and back. Have her put her feet in your lap and massage them too.
8. Cook her a romantic dinner, complete with candles, flowers and a nice bottle of wine.
9. Have interests of your own, but make time for her. She fell for you because you intrigued her. Keep doing what you love. If you're a well-rounded person, you'll always have things to talk about.
10. Encourage her to follow her heart's desire. Does she have a hidden dream? Does she fantasize of being a famous painter? Buy her an easel. Has she always wanted to climb Mt. Everest? Buy her books on Nepal or a new pair of hiking boots. Does she want to return to school? Help her apply for financial aid. The happier she is with herself, the happier she'll be with you.
11. Find a common hobby or interest. Whether it's attending a church together or watching horror movies. Find something you BOTH like and make time to do it as often as you can.
12. Listen with your ears and your heart. Let her know you're paying attention. Ask her what she would like to make your relationship better. Be open to what she has to say.
13. Follow up your words with actions. Did you promise to go with her to visit her mother? Say you were going to take her out on Saturday night? Return the videos? Do it!
14. Give her space when she needs it. If she needs some time alone, don't take it personally. Everyone's need for personal space is different. Respect hers.
15. Communicate. Listen with respect. Repeat what you heard her say. Validate her points. Validate her.

What You Need:

• A sense of humor
• Patience
• Compassion
• A shoulder for her to cry on
• Lots of Love

Age Differences in Lesbian Relationships

Sometimes you just happen to fall in love with someone older or younger than you. Other times you're naturally attracted to women older or younger than yourself. Some people claim that age differences do not matter in relationships. But the truth is, it often does. When does age difference matter in lesbian relationships and what can you do to ensure your relationship will survive?

How to make age differences work:
First you need to be open to the fact that even though you love each other and have so much in common, one thing that is different about you is the amount of time you have lived. It’s not a deal breaker, but it can cause conflict. Everyone is different, but people tend to go through different stages at certain ages of their lives.

For example, many women attend college in their early 20s to early 30s. You might spend your twenties hanging out a lot with your friends, partying and jumping from job to job. In your forties, you might be more settled in your job, have some money saved for retirement, own a house and have children who are adults themselves.

A woman in her twenties, even if she is mature for her age, is not going to have had all the same life experiences as someone in her forties. Does this mean the relationship cannot work? Of course not! But it does present some challenges that a couple that is the same age may not experience.

Ten, Twenty, Thirty Years Different

How many years separate you and the age each of you are can be a factor. A fifteen year age difference might not seem like a big deal to a 30-year-old and 45-year-old. But if one is 18 and the other is 33, there might be challenges. One can't go to over 21 clubs, may be just starting out on her own or in school.

Like any kind of difference in relationship, whether it be economic, race, class or culture, it is important to look at where these differences enhance the relationship and where they may lead to potential conflict. Good communication and trust will improve your chances of relationship success.

Outside Forces

Regardless of how well suited you are for each other, your friends and family may disapprove of a relationship with a large age difference, especially if both of you mainly have friends within your own age group. Be sure your social circle includes people of varying ages. And make sure to socialize as a couple with each other's friends so they can get to know you as a couple.

Life Goals

More than our differences, it's our similarities that make a relationship work. Make sure you’re on the same page about life goals. Do you both want children? Where do you each see yourselves in ten years? Are you compatible on a day-to-day basis? Do you share the same interests, hobbies, spiritual beliefs and values? These things may be more of an indicator of success than how old you are.

Other Differences

Money and sex are issues that couples often fight about. Age can contribute to both these factors. An older woman may make more than her younger partner, of if she is retired, she may be on a fixed income and make less. As our bodies age and we enter perimenopause and menopause, women often experience different levels of desire and arousal. If you are aware of these issues and are prepared to deal with them as they arise, your relationship should be on firm footing.

Where to Meet Lesbians Older or Younger Than Yourself

If you are someone who knows she is attracted to older or younger women, but doesn't have the opportunity to meet them in your daily life, then consider taking out or answering a personal ad. When you write a personal ad, you can be specific about the kind and age of women you want to date.

Making Age Differences Work

Sexual attraction and love are important, but it takes more than love to make a relationship work. Communication, trust and respect are essential. The keys to relationship success is not what differences are or are not present, rather how you deal with those differences.

Are you ready to be labeled?

You will know you are a lesbian when you are ready to label yourself as one. It's really okay.

As you continue to figure it out, here are some things to consider:

**When you are with a girl you are attracted to, does your belly do flip-flops?
**When you hear love songs on the radio, do you think of guys or girls?
**Who do you fantasize about?
**If you have the choice of spending time with a girl you like or a boy you like, which do you choose?
**Who do you enjoy kissing more? Men or women?

Please don't think you have to sleep with someone to figure it out. While sex is a big part of sexual orientation, it is not the only part. Listen also with your heart and your head.

Be easy on yourself. In time you will figure it out. Coming out is one of the hardest things a person will ever do. I encourage you to talk with supportive friends, read books with gay and lesbian characters.